6 reasons not to send your daughter to college

Maebb

WTF.

https://www.fixthefamily.com/blog/6-reasons-to-not-send-your-daughter-to-college

For the record, I think some people go to college and enjoy it and do great, and other people pursue other dreams. Both choices are equally good. Women (and men) should be encouraged to make that choice without feeling bad or guilty about it. Going to college or not, working outside the home or not - all of those choices are great, and they certainly don't make someone a bad wife, mother, or Christian. As a parent, if I ever have a daughter (and same for DS), I hope I can be supportive of whatever she decides to be, whether it involves college or not.

I know this is controversial, and I'm not trying to stir up bad emotions, but this article is just so bad that I want to hear other people's opinions on it.

NativeFloridian

How unwise and imprudent of me to have gone to college.  They're so right about how getting a degree makes a woman feel as if she has to use it by getting a job, and about how it makes a man feel like his wife shouldn't waste her degree, and about how the degree then traps the woman into a sinful role in marriage because she should be in the home.

Oh, wait.  I'm not married.  I'm not in the workforce despite having formal education and diploma.  And never once have SO and I made mention, at least not aloud, of my degree being wasted.  And I'm starting a business.  Guess I'm unwise and imprudent

Oh wells.

ETA: Wait, wait.  Am I a horrible sinner for because I got a degree, or am I doin' it right because I'm a SAHM?

CinemaGoddess

Do whatever you want (besides be a couch potato and watch TV and surf the internet). It doesn't take that much $ for a girl to live at home with her parents until she meets Mr. Right. It's much better for your morals as well. Think about this: What would you do if you could do ANYTHING you want and didn't feel like you HAVE to go to college? So the only reason you're going to college is to get a husband? That's a pretty expensive dating game, which often fails.

This was the post author's response to the question "So what is an 18 year old girl supposed to do?"

Lol at this lady.  This fucking lady.  

LuckyDad

... parody?

LuckyDad

I can't even tell anymore. Thanks internet.

Libby1978

O.M.G.

Rach21

I'm a Christian and I stopped reading that crap halfway through the first paragraph. I made myself go back and read it so I could bash it, and when I got to the reasons I about died. What a self-righteous idiot.

Libby1978

This part here:

As for the husband leaving her, the possibility of being left in such a state would make a woman MUCH more careful about the man she decides to marry. Think about it. If you know you're throwing your COMPLETE trust and future on a man, you'll want one you can certainly rely on. 

Ummmm, Whut?

 

Libby1978

Idani said:

Libby1978 said:

This part here:

As for the husband leaving her, the possibility of being left in such a state would make a woman MUCH more careful about the man she decides to marry. Think about it. If you know you're throwing your COMPLETE trust and future on a man, you'll want one you can certainly rely on. 

Ummmm, Whut?

 

 

This is the point I had to stop.  I mean silly me for not realizing my husband would lose his job and we would be relying on my college degree to pay bills and keep a roof over our head.   Geez, I clearly wasn't thinking carefully. 

Well, it really rubs me the wrong way because it's putting the blame on the women if her husband turns out to be a dickhead and leaves her. 

NativeFloridian

My personal favorites:

"3. She will not learn to be a wife and mother.  Nothing that is taught in a college curriculum is geared toward domestic homemaking."

"But the confounding thing is that they went through all this effort to raise and educate their daughters themselves but don’t give their daughters the opportunity to do the same by locking her into a career."

"To assume that all of our children will need a college degree is quite a stretch, particularly for girls who will likely be mothers."

virgin4lyfe

Libby1978 said:

This part here:

As for the husband leaving her, the possibility of being left in such a state would make a woman MUCH more careful about the man she decides to marry. Think about it. If you know you're throwing your COMPLETE trust and future on a man, you'll want one you can certainly rely on. 

Ummmm, Whut?

 

Call me crazy, but one of those reasons I was told to go to college so you can, ya know, BE SELF RELIANT if your husband ever leaves you?
I AM SO FREAKING CONFUSED.
Also I have nothing against marrying a rich guy and being lazy, but this sets feminism back a wayyys.

LuckyDad

And for real, if this is serious, all the research indicates if you want a man who earns, you gotta be educated and earn yourself. Rich guys just don't marry their secretaries anymore; doctors marry someone they met in college or med school.

virgin4lyfe

LuckyDad said:

And for real, if this is serious, all the research indicates if you want a man who earns, you gotta be educated and earn yourself. Rich guys just don't marry their secretaries anymore; doctors marry someone they met in college or med school.

I at least was kidding, LD. We discussed my "wanting" to marry rich on the mandatory work "fun" post, yes?

LuckyDad

KJLx121 said:

LuckyDad said:

And for real, if this is serious, all the research indicates if you want a man who earns, you gotta be educated and earn yourself. Rich guys just don't marry their secretaries anymore; doctors marry someone they met in college or med school.

I at least was kidding, LD. We discussed my "wanting" to marry rich on the mandatory work "fun" post, yes?

Yes, we did. I was mostly just referring to the general tragedy of the decline of male jobs and marriage amongst the working classes.

theseaword

Just can't here to post this. RAGE. I wish I could lol.

theseaword

Plus, this doesn't even sound in line with Catholic beliefs. I went to a Jesuit college even though I'm Atheist. They love education.

EMOmamma

NativeFloridian

EXP_626 said:

Also, girls apprently shouldn't go to college because they should focus on being wives, mothers, and homeschooling their kids. A high school education is sufficient for being solely responsible for educating the next generation, right??? 8-|

I mean, the only new stuff I learned from going to college is how to fiddle with computers.  Everything before that came from that ole mandatory schoolin' that ended with high school.  Most of what I learned post-high school has been self-taught.  I wouldn't consider my college education particularly relevant to homeschooling my kids, which I'm doing.  Of all the idiocy in this article, I don't see how this is something to take issue with.

mrs.schmitty

What!? I...CAN'T....EVEN...

 

I'm curious though. Do you think getting my master's degrees was more or less sinful?

I'm unsure because while it was more time I spent training for a job instead of working on being a good wife and mother, I also committed far fewer sins than I did in undergrad. Less drinking, less drugs and less sleeping around.

 LMK. I'm a little worried that my salvation depends on it.

NativeFloridian

Luhdashuh said:

Also, girls apprently shouldn't go to college because they should focus on being wives, mothers, and homeschooling their kids. A high school education is sufficient for being solely responsible for educating the next generation, right??? 8-|

But why would a homeschooled need a degree when they can access well researched articles on the Internet like this gem. My eyes almost rolled out of my head when she said you don't need college bc of our vast library system and the Internet.

Yeah, I think it's as stupid as you do to say that no woman needs a degree because she's got the Internet but I would also like to point out that I homeschool my eldest and not a single part of that process has been helped along by my having a college education.

I'm nowhere near saying this lady has a point.  I'm just politely asking that we not take this in the opposite direction, here.  My kids aren't gonna suffer because I'm homeschooling without the benefit of having a degree in education.  I'm smart enough to know how to teach my kids.

Nita2603

Yeah. No. Just no.

SpaceGirlSpiff

HA! --wait.. *scrolls to the bottom*.. 

Oh.  This isnt satire.

*stabs self in face*

Well I'd better be on my way, back to my degrading breadwinning job and working on my sinful accouting degree.

Rach21

My favorite/most hated part was the tripe about #2 "She will be in a near occasion of sin."

It says: "Just think of the environment that college-age students live in.  You have a heavy concentration of young people all living together without the supervision of parents at the most sexually charged state of life they will experience.  How can one expect that anyone would be able to avoid these temptations, even on a Catholic college campus much less a secular one?  So if it is unnecessary for one to be in a near occasion of sin, is it prudent to willingly put oneself there?  This is no small matter we’re dealing with here.  Is a degree worth the loss of your daughter’s purity, dignity, and soul?"

a) Proximity to boys =/= girls are going to become ravenous whores and impale themselves on their unsuspecting co-eds. If all it takes for a girl to turn into a nympho is being around a bunch of boys, what's to keep that from happening at school, at home, or anywhere in general? ALSO... any person, boy or girl, priest, nun, or John Doe can be in a near proximity to sin if he or she is all alone. The Bible is clear that sin comes out of a person's heart. So if Susie Sunshine doesn't go to college, gets married, has 10 kids, but is a generally angry, hate-filled person, guess what? She's sinned too.

b) If you've raised your child to be a Christian, a Buddhist, or an orthodox Jew, at some point your children can't piggy back off your faith their entire lives. That faith will need to become personal to them, or it isn't their faith at all. My parents raised me in a Christian home, but I choose to live a Christian life because I believe Jesus was the Son of God, lived without sin, died on the cross, and rose from the dead. *I* believe that. My parents might have taught me the basics when I was a kid, but I had to come to that decision on my own.

virgin4lyfe

My favorite/most hated part was the tripe about #2 "She will be in a near occasion of sin."

It says: "Just think of the environment that college-age students live in.  You have a heavy concentration of young people all living together without the supervision of parents at the most sexually charged state of life they will experience.  How can one expect that anyone would be able to avoid these temptations, even on a Catholic college campus much less a secular one?  So if it is unnecessary for one to be in a near occasion of sin, is it prudent to willingly put oneself there?  This is no small matter we’re dealing with here.  Is a degree worth the loss of your daughter’s purity, dignity, and soul?"

a) Proximity to boys =/= girls are going to become ravenous whores and impale themselves on their unsuspecting co-eds. If all it takes for a girl to turn into a nympho is being around a bunch of boys, what's to keep that from happening at school, at home, or anywhere in general? ALSO... any person, boy or girl, priest, nun, or John Doe can be in a near proximity to sin if he or she is all alone. The Bible is clear that sin comes out of a person's heart. So if Susie Sunshine doesn't go to college, gets married, has 10 kids, but is a generally angry, hate-filled person, guess what? She's sinned too.

b) If you've raised your child to be a Christian, a Buddhist, or an orthodox Jew, at some point your children can't piggy back off your faith their entire lives. That faith will need to become personal to them, or it isn't their faith at all. My parents raised me in a Christian home, but I choose to live a Christian life because I believe Jesus was the Son of God, lived without sin, died on the cross, and rose from the dead. *I* believe that. My parents might have taught me the basics when I was a kid, but I had to come to that decision on my own.

GOSHDANGIT I am stuck in your box.

I WENT to a Catholic college. There were no cute boys. I had zero urge to randomly jump one of them.

Just sayin'.

theimpossibleastronaut

Um, the grammar and usage in this blog makes me think that this person could have benefited from a few more college classes. So, I'm not taking anything this asshole says seriously.

klondikebar

I went to college to get the drunk orgies out of my system before getting married;)

  I'm not reading that BS. I will say that I am happy I went to college even though I never worked afterward. It was a great experience and I actually did learn a few things.

quidditchcapn1120

As a Christian and married woman, my eyes are rolling big time. As an educated woman I am enraged. That is the craziest bunch of BS I've heard in a while.

And women shouldn't go to college because they'll attract the wrong type of men? You mean a woman clearly can't be smart enough to recognize a good partner without living with her parents and letting them pick for her?