I hate it!! just a little venting here.

jemmy85

Bd tells me he wants to come over to see me and our son.. I tell him fine but he needs diapers.. wipes and after I tell him that I never hear from him for the rest of that day and he is a no show. Now.. he came one time to see him, my son is 3 weeks, he came after I was home from the hospital.. he didn't bring diapers.. he didn't bring wipes.. he held him for 10 min.. then he spent the rest of the night trying to feel me up. It just hurts that he doesn't wanna do ANTHING for our son.. yet he tells me lets go to dinner.. or lets go here and there.. its like hello idiot I have a NEWBORN!! I love being here with my son day and night and would do anything for him. It just breaks my heart to know his dad is doing nothing for him. :-(

20thirteen

This may sound terrible, but it may be better to tell him that if he isn't going to grow up and take care of his son like a man would, that maybe he should just split.  Better to have him gone than to have some guy who won't help make the situation better.  That might just be my experience though, my BD split and tried to come back and I've never regretted banning him from DD's life (until he grows up or gets a lawyer).

jemmy85

no that's how I see it too... I told him he needs to step up and help provide for his son. But he just tells me not to talk to him like that.. lol.. so I have to talk to him all sweet.. yeah right. that doesn't work for me. He thinks he can tell me how to act but he can do whatever he wants. YEAH RIGHT!

rachaelT28

My soon to be ex husband does the same thing, he won't come around and see our sons unless he thinks hes going to get something physical from me. It makes me feel horribly low about myself, like if I don't put it out there for him my sons may not have a relationship with their father. I finally quit and just said its not my job to make sure they have a relationship thats my soon to be ex's job. If he wants to be a horrible father that's his problem not mine. Let go of him being a dad to your child and just be a great mom, it sounds like you already are one anyway.

jemmy85

rachaelT28 said:

My soon to be ex husband does the same thing, he won't come around and see our sons unless he thinks hes going to get something physical from me. It makes me feel horribly low about myself, like if I don't put it out there for him my sons may not have a relationship with their father. I finally quit and just said its not my job to make sure they have a relationship thats my soon to be ex's job. If he wants to be a horrible father that's his problem not mine. Let go of him being a dad to your child and just be a great mom, it sounds like you already are one anyway.

I know how you feel when you said it makes you feel low.. you just start to feel like its the only thing they want. And I told him that straight up that that's they only thing he is worried about and how about he needs to worry about getting this baby some diapers and wipes. And I agree.. I do need to stop trying to get him to be a dad cause if he really wants to be in his life he will. Thank you very much. :-)   we gotta stick to our mommy duties and worry about our babies not the stupid boys that helped make them!