Are you referred to as "aunt xyz?"

ASmallWonder

If you have nieces and nephews, do you they call you by your first name or is it "Aunt/auntie" something or other?  We got a thank you card in the mail today from SIL.  It was actually from our niece ("signed" by the niece) for her christening gift.  Not that it's any big deal at all but she wrote it out to us with our first names and not Aunt/Uncle ElmoAli.  NBD but I was already a little put off that after knowing her for 9 years, she spelled my name wrong lol

theimpossibleastronaut

My niece and nephew refer to me as Aunt (my NN) and my husband as Uncle (first name). I wouldn't care if they called me by my first name or NN though.

klondikebar

Dh and I are referred to as Aunt K and Uncle K.

LaurelBee

We are Auntie/Uncle to all our nieces, nephews, and good friend's kids.

Nita2603

I am unfortunately referred to as 'auntie Nita'. I don't like it, but it is what it is.
I, however, refer to the boys aunts and uncles by their first names only.

monkeybutt61612

My nephew calls me "jo jo", just how he always said my name. I think aunt is too formal for our family. (Granted he is only 6)

Littledeer84

DD only has one cousin so far and she doesn't really talk yet. I am trying to encourage DD to call her Aunts and Uncles "Aunt name" or " Uncle Name" but it has been hard. Hopefully as more kids join the family we will get into the swing of it

wiggyslilsis

Yes I am Auntie FN and DH is Uncle FN. Or just Auntie and Uncle if we are the only ones around for that title.

SIL has her kids calling every one of her friends new or old uncle and auntie which is a little off putting to me. Well maybe a lot off putting since she hangs with a bad crowd.

kaydee77

I have no nieces/nephews of my own.  DH has 4 - one of them lives with us, he's 20, and calls me by my first name (which I'm ok with).  His 21 year old niece and 11 year old nephew call me "aunt" but they live out of state and I see them once a year.  The other niece is 8 months old. 
But the 20 year old who lives with use, introduces me as "aunt xyz" to others lol.

Pearls+Oysters

I'll forever be Tia FirstName. I'm okay with that.

With SO's nieces and nephews, he's Uncle FirstName and I'm just FirstName. I'm not okay with that.

I mean, my son will never see his uncle and aunt together because they're divorcing, and I will forever refer to her as Aunt Nickname. She will always be his cousins' mother, isn't that what a fucking aunt is supposed to be? I want to be Aunt FirstName too!

Maebb

Aunt Mae. It makes me sound 86 years old.

kmm2150

There are no cousins old enough to SAY aunt/uncle at this point, but we (the adults) refer to each other as uncle x, aunt y, when talking to the kiddos. To me it's more a term of affection than formality, like grandma/grandpa. We have a few very close friends that we refer to as aunt/uncle but I don't throw that around too much.

ASmallWonder

It's interesting to me that some of you are saying you don't have nieces/nephews because you don't have siblings with children but that your SOs do.  I understand that you'd likely feel closer to children you are blood related to but the niece and nephew I have right now are DH's brother's children.  I still think they're my niece and nephew though.  Is that not the norm?  And I totally think my SIL is just much my kids' aunt as DH's brother is their uncle...

Pearls+Oysters

I refer to SO's nieces and nephews as "his" because they're from his side, and mine are "mine" because they're from my side, but overall, they're really "ours" since we gladly share them with each other. No but really we're just as close to all of them as we can be.

My brother refers to SO as Uncle FN. We refer to his ex as Aunt NN. So why can't SO's sisters refer to ME as Aunt FN is beyond comprehension. They're all Aunt FN and their SO are all Uncle FN. The older kids do call me Aunt, the youngins are barely able to say my name. I just think it's disrespectful coming from their moms.

OhSewCrafty

On cards we are Aunt and Uncle, but in conversation my nephew just uses our first names. For the reverse, however, its kind of weird.

My sister's name is Christina. I've spent the last 27 years calling her Chris/Christina. My kids are her first real niece/nephew, but friends of hers have older kids that call my sister "Aunt Tina" because they already had an Aunt Chris. So, I think she wants my kids to also call her Aunt Tina, but that's incredibly weird to me because that's not her name and has never been her name.

Sorry, random vent.

kmm2150

ITA that I think of both spouses as equally aunt/uncle regardless of who's by marriage and who's blood related, but I think sometimes its a different dynamic when a new aunt or uncle arrives after the kids are older. For example, I have a friend who recently got married and her husband is the youngest of four kids. He has lots of nieces and nephews that are 8,10 years old and he has always been uncle but when she came on the scene as a girlfriend she was just Firstname. I think they may be transitioning to aunt now that they are married.

ReeseFox

My niece usually just calls me Tía (Spanish for aunt) with no first name. She calls DH by his first name.

ASmallWonder

MrsSkull1107 said:

I hope you don't think I said that. I was just pointing out that I only have nieces and nephews on one side of the family and they call me Aunt or first name interchangeably.

No, actually, yours isn't one of the ones that stood out to me.  I got what you were saying.  I only really started noticing it when people were saying they are not called aunt by their SO's nieces and nephews, though the uncle is referred to as uncle.  

ASmallWonder

kmm2150 said:

ITA that I think of both spouses as equally aunt/uncle regardless of who's by marriage and who's blood related, but I think sometimes its a different dynamic when a new aunt or uncle arrives after the kids are older. For example, I have a friend who recently got married and her husband is the youngest of four kids. He has lots of nieces and nephews that are 8,10 years old and he has always been uncle but when she came on the scene as a girlfriend she was just Firstname. I think they may be transitioning to aunt now that they are married.

Yeah, I totally get that situation but not so much when a baby is born into a family when the aunt/uncle is already a married couple.

MrsWindyCity

First name. When my niece was born, SIL and BIL asked if I wanted to be FN or Aunt FN. I said FN, which is what I grew up calling my uncles. Our kids also call their aunt and uncles by their FN (we also asked their preference and they either preferred FN or didn't care)

SandiaPinaMama

I'm Aunt Watermelon. DS1 uses Uncle for uncles, aunts, and my 2 bffs.

Spin313

I have two nieces and two nephews, but I only live near one (my sister's daughter). She calls me Tia (aunt in Spanish). SIL's boys call me Aunt (first name). BIL's daughter is only a year old and we haven't met her yet...she'll probably call me Aunt (first name), too.

shadypines

Auntie first name

jbatch

They usually call me Aunt Jbatch  but I run the daycare they go to and the other kids call me Ms. JBatch so sometimes they forget and call me Ms. JBatch.. But if we're goofing off they will call me just JBatch sometimes.

angelashly

My nieces and nephew do and even my so is uncle to them because he was around before they were born.

His niece and nephew call him uncle and me by my name. They do introduce me as their aunt to people. They were 5 and 8 when I came around.

jorkz821

I don't have nieces or nephews yet and neither does DH but O calls our siblings and their SOs Auntie or Uncle FN. I always called my relatives that way growing up and I still do now.