Vent: You're going to tell me how I should feel???

nblondheim

First and foremost, I am crabby! Being back to school teaching has really taken it's toll on me in many different ways. I am 14 1/2 weeks pregnant with twins and am a FTM. But I am completely sick of my co-workers/boss telling me what I can/can't do, what I can/can't eat, and how I should feel!

I got a manicure this weekend and as soon as my boss saw me, she grabbed my hands and said "I just wanted to make sure you didn't get fake nails because that would be putting too many chemicals in your body." Nope.... all my nails!

Yesterday it was hot and humid and we have no AC in the school except for the main office. I had a wonderful experience gagging while my students were having play time. During the end of the day, I realized I had pushed myself way too much and felt completely sick. I got my students on the bus and then went and sat in the office. My boss saw me and asked what I ate that I hadn't eaten before because it must be that. I informed her I was still dealing with morning sickness and I thought it was due to the heat. She just walked away.

Today we had a staff meeting after school and as we were gathering for the meeting others were complaining about the heat and how they felt. One teacher said she felt great and jokingly I said "Well I will give you one of my babies!" Boy oh boy did I get it. I got told I had no right to be complaining at all, I should be feeling fine, that it was only going to get worse, and the end was going to be horrible for me if I thought this was bad.

While some of the these may be true, it made me mad! Every pregnancy is different for every person. Also, all of these people telling me these things have never carried/had twins so they don't know what it's like. It just makes me frustrated!!!

Okay.... I feel better now!

cdnmomma

That is shitty. I'm sorry. Hope tomorrow is better.

nblondheim

Thank you.... so do I but I am thinking it will be more of the same unfortunately!

saisongbird

::hugs:: that sucks.

nblondheim

saisongbird said:

::hugs:: that sucks.

Thank you and yes it does!!!

nblondheim

bearsbearsbears said:

I just emailed my sister and was telling her I don't want to tell anyone I was pregnant until the baby is here.  I got so damn sick of the dumbass comments last time around and I have no patience left for comments this pregnancy.

Haha smart thinking!! I have a feeling I'm going to eventually just tell them exactly how I feel!!

angelsnight

This is why I am trying to wait until 18-20 weeks before I announce at work.  People are idiots, and as soon as they know you're pregnant, you're no longer an interesting person to talk to, it's just baby baby baby and a bunch of know it alls.

crystaljoanna

With IF I became very good at dealing with stupid comments - when are you going to have kids? Don't you want them? If you just don't think about it it will happen, etc. I anticipate people offering unsolicited advice is something that we will be dealing with as parents for a very long time just have to come up with some witty responses for the frequent questions and advice!

akb1125

Coworkers don't seem to have any filters! I'm dealing with it as well.

Jdhesami

Uhh I'm dealing with this as well. And I'm sick of my husband saying I'm lazy if I'm tired and lay down or can't do something! Like he knows what it's like to be pregnant!

Jennarae19

I feel your pain, I'm not pregnant with twins but I'm a little over fourteen weeks too. I've been hearing the same things from everyone around me and since this is my first ive done all the research I could and I've even had to correct them on some things because they didn't know the thing I do. It's really annoying and being hormonal does not help the way I handle things and I tend to fly off the handle for you. I'm lucky enough to just be goin to school full time online and I don't have to deal with people I I don't want to. I just want you to know your not alone!

Jennarae19

My fiancé gets in to me for not cleaning or cooking when it makes me want to throw up! Ugh I wish there was one man that understood what we go through.

springbaby03

What is it about pregnant women that makes people catch a heavy case of the stupids?

Excitedmum35

Oh dear how annoying for you. As if anyone knows what YOUR pregnancy is like!!!!! Seriously they all need a punch in the face.

Maddeegal

Sounds like my MIL, I'm sorry, people really need to learn boundaries! Also not all pregnancies get worse at all, my 1st one was easy cheese, and labor and delivery was as well, but the next person could be sick the whole time with a 48hr labor! No one should tell you about you specifically! and btw certain fake nails when pregnant are NOT toxic to baby. My nail tech is pregnant, and my SIL has a 5 month old and is a nail tech too, both explained to me what their doctors told them!

ceciljbrown

I'm sorry, that really sucks.  It really does happen when you get pregnant - people just suddenly start treating you like an invalid who suddenly cannot make any correct decisions.  Or you get treated like public property - everyone has an input to what you just did/ate/said that was terrible or bad for the baby or whatever.

My DH said to me the other day after I was complaining about my back and not feeling well, "Just think positive thoughts and you'll be fine.  It really can't be that bad."  Oh no, right honey, why didn't I think of that?  I'm sure the mass of hormones will respond merely to me wanting to feel better.  Oh wait...that hasn't happened in the last, oh, 12 weeks, I'm sure it will start working now.

And really, I'm not laying on the couch because I don't want to do the dishes that seem to pile up when I don't do then, I'm lying here because when I move, it makes me want to throw up. (To which I'm sure he'd say, 'Just throw up on the dishes, you're washing them anyway, right?)

nblondheim

Laura8388 said:

My fave is when someone had ONE kid like 15-20 years ago (or more) but they are a total expert on EVERYTHING pregnancy related.

Times change, honey!

That's most of the people who are giving me their opinions!!!

nblondheim

Thankfully my DH has been beyond amazing since the get go! I honestly don't remember the last time I did dishes, washed laundry, took out the garbage, etc because he does it all! He knows how rough I feel, how sensitive I am to things like smells, and how tired I am especially now that I'm back to work and my 65 minute drive one way! Of course there are days when I can tell he is sick of doing it all on his own but he's never said something rude! I'm very lucky with him and I know that!

SoulfulMomma2Be

**hugs**

BabiesFTW

Ugh. People are so obnoxious.