Finally

JessicaG220

I scheduled an appointment with a grief counselor. I am really, really struggling right now. I'm not sure how much it will help, but I hope I will at least find ways to cope better. I need someone to help me find perspective so that I can focus on the good in my life. I miss Ava so much every day and it hurts so badly when I remember that I will never know her. I want to know what she would have looked like, how her voice would have sounded, what color her eyes would have been... I really hope talking to someone will help me feel better.

Hugs to all

cawettig

I am glad you are going to one. Mine helped me out alot.

jbranden12

It's good that you've taken this step. I hope you have great connection with this counselor!

Heatherhah

I truly think that all loss mom and dads should seek some sort of counseling to deal with the life after loss. I started a week after we lost Sydney and she is a wonderful friend now. I still go and see her just not as often. She is always there and she is also a loss mom too so she gets me so much better than anyone else. I hope you find comfort and strength. Hugs you are taking a huge step !!

Heather

bunnybun4

so proud of you for taking such a big step...I don't know where i would be without my therapist.  Therapy has helped me sooo much in this awful process...just to be able to throw it all up and say everything that is on my mind has been helpful enough!!!  GL!

Auki13

I think it's a great step as well.  I never went to a counselor and I really think it could have helped. I hope that you 2 click and that you are able to sort through some of the complex feelings involved with child loss.   

Noethola

You have done a good thing. Its never bad to get more chances to talk about our babies. I hope that you find someone you really click well with and you are able to start seeing benefits of going soon.

Dixon813

I'm so glad you're doing this, Jessica.  If nothing else, it's helped me so much just to have someone to LISTEN to me and remember my babies.

Hugs!!

JessicaG220

Thanks, ladies. I love the support I get on here. I am anxious to go and get all of my feelings out. I look forward to feeling better mentally.

neptunebljc

I was wondering. Where did you find your counselor?

JennyLynne

My counselor has been so amazing for me. My advice to you is that if you don't think the counselor you're with is the "right fit" for you after a few sessions, don't be afraid to find another one. This is about you right now.
Also, at times it may be difficult if you have a counselor that is actively trying to help you work through your grief. For me I had a hard time with mine at first because I'm an avoider and tried to shut my grief off, and she made me go towards it and really look at my feelings. I almost quit and I'm glad I didn't. Hang in there--when you find the right person, it's such a great thing.

@neptunebljc - What I did to find my counselor was I called the Behavioral Health department of my hospital and said I needed to make an appointment with a counselor. I also gave them a synopsis of what I was needing to be seen for and specifically asked the appointment desk if they could match me with someone based off of that. They did a great job getting me with the right person. 

neptunebljc

@jennylynne thanks. DH and I have been talking about going to see one and I wasn't sure how to go about it.