WWPD - Gender Specific Halloween costumes

JPinkman

So, in trying to allow DD#1 the ability to choose for herself, I showed her the Disney Store website last night so she could pick out a costume.  I went to the girls costumes and clicked through all of the options - she said no to every single one and asked where the pirate costumes were at.

Finally, we got to the only girl pirate costume - Izzy from Jake and the Neverland Pirates. 

 

 

She looked at the costume for awhile and said - no - I don't want to be Izzy - I want to be Jake, Daddy needs to be Captain Hook and you need to be Red Jessica, Mommy.  I went back and forth with her on it - but no - her mind is made up - it is Jake or nothing.

 

So, do I buy the Jake costume or buy the Izzy costume and try to convince her closer to Halloween to go with Izzy?

I am leaning towards just buying the Jake costume to avoid a future melt down. 

 

shadypines

jake

RondackHiker

She wants to be Jake. Buy Jake.

I don't understand the problem. Why would you buy Izzy if she wants to be Jake?

NativeFloridian

Just buy the Jake costume, I'd say.  DD1 wanted to be Spiderman last year, foam muscles and all.  I let her.  She even went around without the mask, so people knew she was a girl in a boy costume.  She got a lot of compliments.  If anybody side-eyed they at least kept it to themselves.  And DD1 was happy as a clam and got lots of candy, and that's all that matters on Halloween, right?

OhSewCrafty

I'd just let her, especially if she loves it. Be the hero. :-)

SoDoMojo

Jake. 

JPinkman

Yeah -  I am overthinking it.  She is going to a party for her preschool so I starting thinking about other kids making fun of her  but then I was like - "who cares what they think?"

OhSewCrafty

JPinkman said:

Yeah -  I am overthinking it.  She is going to a party for her preschool so I starting thinking about other kids making fun of her  but then I was like - "who cares what they think?"

Its true. Plus, this is an easy one to say yes to. You've got years of tattoos, piercings, outfit choices, and dates to say no to. ;-)

missymo

Just do Jake! My daughter was a pirate with a mustache last year and the only comments she got were regarding how damn cute she looked.

Smootchy

team: she picked jake, buy jake. 

If it makes you feel any better DS wants to be a superhero (probably spider-man but ya know, each day is different) and he wants DD to be either another superhero (he's leaning towards superman) OR "a bad guy". So more than likely DD will be a bad guy or guy superhero... Unless I come across a super cute superwoman... But I don't care. I'm letting DS pick out DD's costume. Male/Female/Monster whichever it may be.

MrsJakes

Let her be Jake. I don't think anyone would make fun of her. It's just a pirate costume. Before the Izzy costume came along, any girl who wanted to be a pirate probably had to wear something similar to the Jake costume. 

Libby1978

Buy the Jake costume.  Not to avoid a meltdown, but because that's who she wants to be.  That is why it's fun to dress up, so you can be someone else.

JPinkman

chapski said:

team: she picked jake, buy jake. 

If it makes you feel any better DS wants to be a superhero (probably spider-man but ya know, each day is different) and he wants DD to be either another superhero (he's leaning towards superman) OR "a bad guy". So more than likely DD will be a bad guy or guy superhero... Unless I come across a super cute superwoman... But I don't care. I'm letting DS pick out DD's costume. Male/Female/Monster whichever it may be.

DD#1 was Supergirl last year - it was a very cute costume - that was the first year she was able to pick out a costume. 

CurlyQ284

I would get the Jake costume. Or there are other pirate costumes that aren't Jake if she just wants to be a pirate and isn't stuck on Jake.

Maebb

Jake if that's the one she likes.

My brother wanted to be Dolly Parton (complete with balloon boobs, makeup, and a blonde wig) for Halloween when he was 7, and my parents gave him that choice. He had a great time.

And really, if a woman decided to be a pirate in real life, she might wear something closer to the Jake costume. Idk why every "girl" costume has to be red or pink and look like a Disney princess.

OhSewCrafty

themrsasmitty said:

Let her go as jake! DS is going as ace ventura pet detective. I don't know how he will feel about the tu tu a few years down the road but it's going to be FUNNY! Picture this...

If we weren't going to Disney this year for Halloween, this is what Charlie was going to be. I LOVE this costume. Hahaha

LuckyDad

Jake costume.

I tend to believe even as adults we shouldn't let gender decide who or what we want to be on Halloween. And at 3 there are no negative social repercussions for a girl dressing as a boy character.

JPinkman

Glad all posts are Jake supportive - confirms my thought to just go ahead and buy Jake.

And, I have an excuse to dress DD#2 as Tinkerbell:

 

Mrs.adambabycakes

Isn't that the point of Halloween?  To dress up as something you are not?  

Nechie122

I don't understand the need to make everything so gendered. My daughter likes "boy" things; she likes fire engines and trains and robots. So that's what I buy, even if it means sending her to preschool with a t-shirt or lunchbox I bought in the boys section.

I also don't buy pink sports equipment. Why do girls need soccer nets and basketball hoops that are "softened" with pastels?

Why can't we just let kids be who they are without making them conform to who they're "supposed" to be?

klondikebar

Team Jake. DD had been Harry Potter, Darth Vader and Indiana Jones.

Rach21

JPinkman said:

Yeah -  I am overthinking it.  She is going to a party for her preschool so I starting thinking about other kids making fun of her  but then I was like - "who cares what they think?"

I don't think preschoolers make fun of Halloween costumes yet. I think you've got a few years before she'll want to wear her underwear and a cat nose and call it a "costume."

Rach21

themrsasmitty said:

Let her go as jake! DS is going as ace ventura pet detective. I don't know how he will feel about the tu tu a few years down the road but it's going to be FUNNY! Picture this...

That.

Is.

Hi-LARIOUS.

Please, please, please teach him how to say "Einhorn is a man."