I posted a few weeks ago about getting a new puppy. He's a Redbone Coonhound and naturally has a hunting instinct which does not sit so well with our cat.
Our kitty has lived with another dog. We got her while we were still living with DH's parents and they had a Golden Retriever. They ended up being very good friends and it was absolutely adorable.
My main concern is how stressed out our cat seems. She's constantly hiding in the bedroom and really only comes out now to eat or when the pup is in his kennel at night. At first when the pup would see her, he'd obviously get really excited but he's pretty good about leaving her alone with the command "Leave it." I've also held/pet the kitty in his presence to try and show him that she's higher up in the pack than he is.
I'm also trying to convince DH that she needs a cat tower in living room. Right now her only high place is the bed (the dog is not allowed in our room.) and where her food is, which is on a jut out type window sill in the dining room.
Is there anything else I can do? I know they might never be the best of friends but I don't want my kitty stressed out anymore. She's losing weight and fur and it's making me really sad. Our puppy is almost 5 months old and our kitty is a little over 3 years old.
Gah, and as usual, my post is super long. Thanks if you read it all!
Re: Pet questions! Getting a cat and dog to get along.
Perhaps a shelf above the couch, or other places to jump up?
Puppy gates she can jump over work well too.
What do you mean by a hunting instinct that doesn't sit well with kitty? What does he do? He can't chase her, ever.
Also, holding and petting her doesn't show the dog she's higher up. The dog needs to learn the cat is yours, and as such is not to be chased or pestered, or molested. Just like you don't let him chew on your hands or shoes.
I'd consider a feliway spray to help kitty feel calmer. Make sure she has access to food and water wherever she chooses to hide, and make sure puppy has plenty of exercise. Consider keeping him leashed if kitty is roaming so he won't chase her.
If your kitty is having health problems, I might make a visit to the vet, but I would probably give it more time, and work on a few other solutions for making sure she feels safe and has a good dog-free zone.
I am also not an expert but have some experience introducing cats and dogs into our home.
We brought home one of our dogs after having our cats for about a year and then brought another one home a year later. Both of our dogs are hounds which are primarily bred to hunt small animals as well.
It definitely takes time but eventually they learned to co-exist. Like others have said, it's important to make sure that cat feels safe and introduce them slowly and carefully. We were actually advised not to hold the cats or pay them too much attention with the dogs around initially.
Because of this, we mostly kept them separated for awhile. Over time, the cats got more comfortable and would come into the room with the dogs (and us) in it and eventually the dogs learned to give them their space.
Now they mostly just all ignore each other. Every once in awhile, one of the dogs will get too close to one of the cats but as soon as the cat hisses or swats at them, they run away and hide.