what to do, what to do...

spanx21

So as my due date approaches, I'm thinking about what's going to happen when the baby arrives and we come home from the hospital.  It's always been the plan that my mom was going to be here with us for the first two weeks.  Everyone has been on board all along, even the in-laws seem to be okay with it.  I'm the one that feels a little guilt.

All of the grandparents will be coming to the hospital once they get the call, and they all live about 2 hours from us.  Here is my dilemma...I hate to tell my in-laws, and my dad and step-mom that they have to get a hotel room or something.  As much I as I would love to have them all stay with us, we only have 3 bedrooms...one is the master, the other the nursery, and the other the guestroom, which will be occupied by my mom.  There just isn't enough room for everyone!  Again, it's just something I feel guilty about, no one has even brought up the issue to me.  Am I being stupid to even worry about this?! Any suggestions on how to deal with this kind of situation?

CMireles2

2 hours isn't very far... If they haven't brought it up I would just assume they weren't spending the night, or are finding their own place to stay. You could always nicely ask them.

*blue*flower*

I don't see why they'd need a hotel or place to stay. 2 hours isn't a huge distance to travel back home in that situation. Don't worry about it, if they haven't brought anything up they probably already have a plan of how they'll handle it.

bkeane619

I wouldn't worry about it.  Let them deal with it.

fantasticmrsfox

Don't feel guilty. They are probably already assuming they will have to since every one is coming in to town at once. You could politely ask, "have you guys found a hotel to stay in yet for when the baby comes?" And offer some suggestions of good ones near you. That way you're not telling them they can't stay with you, but rather assuming its known there isn't enough room. You could mention that you wish everyone could stay with you, but undortunately there's just not enough room.

babyLOLO13

I agree with PP's.  2 hours is a hop skip drive... Not sure why everyone would need a hotel. Secondly, I guarantee that after you labor and birth your LO the LAST thing you'll want to do is host.  I would be surprised if any of them felt left out... 

Amjoy25

Agree with PP, if they haven't brought it up, they probably already have some place to stay. I do not agree with saying 2 hours isn't that far, and maybe they are not staying...nope. 4 hours is a long round trip for anyone, but especially elderly family members. I'm sure they have made arrangements.

sfshorter

Why don't you just ask them what their plans are???  It's as simple as asking and explaining you don't have room in your house for more guests overnight, but recommend some nearby hotels if they want to stick around more than one day.  

pmarie33

Don't worry about it.  Let them figure it out.

spanx21

very helpful ladies...i'm just making it out to more than it is, I guess.  Everything will work out just fine!

hartsl01

My parents and in-laws all live 2 hours away as well. It has never been brought up to either DH or me if they can stay at our house while we are in the hospital. They will come down to the hospital and visit and then go back home. My parents may stay at our house while we're in the hospital just to take care of doodle, but most likely not.

As far as the guilt goes, if your dad/step-mom and in-laws don't feel bad or excluded by it, then I wouldn't worry about it either.