WWPD

nanabanana06

So, I have a friend I met through some Corgi people. She has Ein's half brother. She has a daughter that is my age. Her daughter is pregnant with her first kid. It's unplanned, she is unemployed, the father to be is homeless, ect. So, she decided I should befriend her daughter and "help" her. I'm all ok with being helpful. I've given her some information, some resources, and am putting aside some baby things for her. However, lately her posts on FB have been alarming. So much so that today she posted about getting tarp and rope and living out in the woods because nobody "supports her". I know it's not my business. Which is why I'm staying out of it, but her mom is not on FB. I'm wondering if maybe I should let her know? Or just block her posts and just let her ruin her own life. WWPD?

Spapeggy

I'd let her mom know. And watch her posts.

Libby1978

How old is she?

white318

Talk with her mom.   Also if you have any resources for shelters, low cost housing, or assistance information for your area and haven't given those to her already you can pass that information along.  There are also many Women's Centers that will provide parenting classes and baby supplies as part of their outreach. 

nanabanana06

Libby1978 said:

How old is she?

23.

I have given her tons of information. She's applied to every low income housing on the Peninsula, Section 8 has a 6 month to 2 year wait list for most cities here, and I have no idea on the women's shelters. She wasasking about places to crash for her and her BF 3 days ago. I think her parents aren't allowing him to live at their house. So she's decided not to live there either. I would offer them a room here, but I can't handle it and we have no room.

LittleFish1

You know the saying about, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. If her mom offered her a place to stay (but not the boyfriend) that is support.. If her mom isn't letting the boyfriend stay, there is probably a good reason. You can only do so much Nana, and she has support, just not in the form she wants. Recognizing that and if truly in need, she'll accept the place to stay from her mom. It is part of growing up.

You've provided info, she needs to step up and be an adult.

nanabanana06

LittleFish1 said:

You know the saying about, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. If her mom offered her a place to stay (but not the boyfriend) that is support.. If her mom isn't letting the boyfriend stay, there is probably a good reason. You can only do so much Nana, and she has support, just not in the form she wants. Recognizing that and if truly in need, she'll accept the place to stay from her mom. It is part of growing up. You've provided info, she needs to step up and be an adult.

Yeah. I'm justworried she's going to just completely destroy her andher babies life for being an idiot. She wants to prove to people she's a good mom. I don't think bringing a newborn to your tent is great parenting. She currently lives with her mom. Her mom seems supportive, even if she is a little leery of it. I would be too if I was pregnant with a homeless mans baby while getting divorced at 23. But I digress. I just know her mom isn't the most "plugged in" and she's airing a lot of dirty laundry.

wiggyslilsis

There are women's shelters all around this area and dshs or community action council can help her with resources but the women's shelters only allow for women and children so her BF still wouldn't be able to stay with her. I know section 8 has a huge waiting list around her but there are other programs to help with housing if you can't get into the section 8. Again DSHS and community action council could help her find those resources. Turning Pointe is a domestic violence shelter but they have a lot of resources to help moms and children so a phone call there might help.

Other than giving her those resources and talking to her mom about the Facebook I don't really think there is anything else for you to do. I understand being concerned about her and her baby's well being but you can't put yourself or your family at risk to help someone who (maybe) won't even help herself.

nanabanana06

@wigglylilsis Thank you! It's just frustrating. I know Ilike seeing a good train wreck on my FB feed, but it's getting to be too much.There is just so much more to this, but I'm about to just step back from it all. I'm going to email her mom to try to get her to whip some sense into her. I want to scream at her so much about getting her head out of her butt and worry about the baby, not her BF.

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