What to do?

mrs.schmitty

When we first moved, I scoped out some of the local mom's groups. The first one I looked into was for military moms and I went to a few of their social gatherings/play dates. The women were all really cool but the group itself that meets twice a month was full. I ended up joining another group that meets on a different day that is just other local moms that I really like. I just got an e-mail from the original group that a spot opened up if I want it.

Do I take it? Is it over kill to join 2 mom's groups? I've also been approached about doing some consulting too and I don't want to overextend myself since the whole idea of taking this year off was to get a break.

MrsT0514

I say if its convenient for you, then go for it. It you feel like it'd make your schedule too hectic, just email back thanking her for extending the invite, but you have other obligations that'd cause a schedule conflict.

I give you major kudos for jumping right into the moms groups! I signed up for one near me thru meetup.com months ago....I have yet to make it to a get together. IDK why, but I'm nervous!

missyishere

I have no advice, since there are no mom groups in my area. You guys are my mom group up in here.

MrsT0514

@missyishere I feel the same way. TB is my super convenient mom group that I can come to while my kid is sleeping. And we all can drink together too, which is always fun, lol.

mrs.schmitty

Oh I was totally nervous too which is why I did it right away before I lost the nerve. The first event I went to was a mom's night out so I didn't even have DS to act as a buffer. I spent the first 5 minutes freaking out and thinking "why did I do this?" before I finally scouted out and sat next to another equally uncomfortable looking mom and asked if she was new too.

I just worry that I am going about being a stay at home mom with the same Type A approach I use with everything else and that I'll end up overextending myself and looking like a flake. Oh well, I guess I can try it out and give up my spot later if it feels like too much.

LittleFish1

I am in 2 play groups. We completly understand when someone can't make it, or there is a conflict of schedule. People seem to go in spurts of participation due to busy times for famalies, kids changing their routines, etc. I would say go for it if you are interested. Even making it to a couple of play dates will give you a chance to get to know more local moms ans could be helpful for both getting out purposes and you may find you really click with a few moms in particular. In my group, there are 3 or 4 of us with girls born within a month of each other. It is really neat seeing how each baby develops in her own way. Having other military famalies to lean on would be good.