I'm annoyed

FrickandFrack

I need opinions. My sis is expecting her first baby mid March and would like me to come the first week to help. They have asked everyone else to give them a few weeks to get settled. DH is all butt hurt that she wants me to come alone. This is his first niece or nephew but is also scared shitless of being home alone with the kids for a week.

I'm seriously annoyed that he's giving me such attitude about going alone and trying to guilt trip me into waiting until he can come. Am I being insensitive to his feelings or would this annoy you also?

ReeseFox

I don't think you're being insensitive at all. Your sister is asking you for help with her first baby. It's not about him.

angelashly

Not insensitive. If it was my sister I would do it in a heartbeat and he would have to suck it up

ASmallWonder

Um, what does he expect to do with YOUR kids if he were to come?  Maybe he's not thinking it through because if he thinks your whole family should go, he needs a refresher on what being a new parent is like because he's clearly forgotten.

FrickandFrack

elmoali said:

Um, what does he expect to do with YOUR kids if he were to come?  Maybe he's not thinking it through because if he thinks your whole family should go, he needs a refresher on what being a new parent is like because he's clearly forgotten.

We have family in town so he was thinking the kids would stay with the grandparents while he and I went together. He doesn't really understand why she wouldn't want him to come also.

ASmallWonder

He obviously doesn't remember your recovery from childbirth, breast feeding, hormones, etc.

FrickandFrack

elmoali said:

He obviously doesn't remember your recovery from childbirth, breast feeding, hormones, etc.

No kidding! Plus, she lives in another state so we could have to pay out the ass for tickets and then stay with her. That would be rough for her!

RondackHiker

Tell him she wants you because you're her sister. He's great, but not her sister. So you're going and he'll deal.

MrsT0514

elmoali said:

He obviously doesn't remember your recovery from childbirth, breast feeding, hormones, etc.

All of this. I don't think you're being insensitive at all. I can totally see why she wants you there alone. I remember those first few weeks after I had DS...I was a fucking wreck.

angelashly

My sister who was only 19 at the time with no kids helped me for the first couple weeks. I want her more than my SO because I was so all over the place. I can't imagine another man there all day

cedenton

My mom brought her SO three days after I gave birth and stayed for a week. It was a disaster. We had to have a heart to heart about it a few months later. She feels really bad. If your sister is planning on breastfeeding the last thing she needs to worry about is having her boobs out around your DH and you shouldn't have anything else taking the attention from your sister. I can't think of a single reason your DH should go. If you have family in town then they can help him out while you're gone.

LoveActually4

Sit him down and really emphasize the words: bleeding, vagina, lactating and hemorrhoids. That will hopefully make him understand. I wanted NO ONE near me until about 5 days PP.