NICU Stress

SWA80

I stupidly thought I'd worry less about my boys after they were born but after just 10 days, the NICU is wearing on me. I feel so guilty every time I leave them there.

They have been doing really well but today little Olly had blood in his stool. They think right now that it is just something viral as x-rays and blood work look normal but I feel so helpless. So many ups and downs.

raraavis28

*Big hugs* Hang in there, mama; there is nothing like worrying about your LOs. You are doing a great job, though, and they will be home soon!

Mrs. Alice

HUGS mama!  The NICU is one giant roller coaster.  We did 70 days and the beginning and very end were definitely the hardest.  I hope everything is okay with your little guy.

leanne.matt

Hugs!!

aliwisewoman

I hear you loud and clear! This has been the scariest and most challenging time of my life. I am also trying to balance my time between my husband, 2 and 4 year old and my two tiny babies in the NICU. Not to mention that we haven't been grocery shopping, mowed the lawn, done any laundry! It's insane. I wish life would stand still until I could bring them home. I'm doing the NICU mom check-in tomorrow.

bilti

Sending lots of hugs! The NICU is so hard and so stressful. I know you have heard everyone say that is the safest place for them, but it doesn't make it easier. I'm thinking about you!

kellibelle0417

Thinking about you and your sweet babies!

LucyRicardo3

Hugs!!!!

mamatotwins0812

Our boys were in 11 and 14 days...like a pp said, the end was one of the hardest points for me. It always felt like 1 step forward, 2 steps back. I got to a point where I thought I'd lose it if they were there another day. Big hugs....it's such a challenging time but you will all get through it and they'll be home with you soon!! Hang in there mama!!

staceymack

I felt the same way. My entire pregnancy I thought if I can just get them here safely, I'll feel better. Then, nicu life happened. It was like closing one stressful chapter and opening another. It is full of ups and downs. That's why it has to be taken one day at a time. I had the same guilt when I would leave. I highly recommend taking advantage of any family network or nicu support groups. Connecting with other parents really helped me. Sending T&P!

SWA80

Thanks ladies. I guess I just have to get used to the idea that there will be good and bad days. They're still not sure what is causing blood in his stool- likely something viral or a reaction to the formula they added to his breast milk. We probably won't know anything for a few days.

megs2011

Big hugs! My girls were in the SCN for 4 weeks and those were so hard. I felt guilty every time we left too because that's when they seemed to wake up was around 9pm when we were leaving. Just be there as much as you can and remember that they are in good hands. The SCN nurses became like family, so it was like my girls were being cared for by family. I actually cried the day we took the girls home because I wouldn't see them everyday.