Who will you prefer?

Daisylola11

I was lurking on a few other boards on the bump, specifically 3rd trimester and natural birth..... And I started thinking

When/if i get my BFP and get to the labor part who will I want in the room with me?

I think I would welcome my sister, mom, MIL maybe a close friend (she's a nurse) but when I'm in active labor I only want SO and midwife in the room. I might change my mind but as of now that's what I would like, we made the baby we get to be there when baby arrives. Also wanting to go w a natural birth no meds (if me and baby are healthy of course)

Have you ladies thought about this, who would u want to be in the room?

capinjen152

I had DH and DH only both times.  With the first, I was planning on my mom too, but by the time she got there I didn't want anyone else coming in.  I made my husband call her because I couldn't focus on anything but getting through the next contraction and had no energy to greet a guest or really even open my eyes.  Turns out mom was waiting for the elevator in the lobby, but being the AWESOME mom that she is, she just went over to our house and let the dogs out and chilled until I called her after the birth.  Second time we just planned not to have anyone else since it worked well the first time.

Daisylola11

That's nice that your mom was chill about it, Im worried my sis and mom will be mad I won't let them in lol

LnR70707

Only DH both times.  Giving birth isn't a spectator sport.

Daisylola11

L&R70707 said:

Only DH both times.  Giving birth isn't a spectator sport.

Agree!!

pettycrocker

I had H and my mother with DD. In hindsight both of them were annoying useless. I would definitely never have my mom again, and I'm trying to figure out how to leave H home too. Tell him to stay home with the kid, I guess? 

alphalyrae

DH and my MIL (she is a nurse and I trust her implicitly).

CowgirlK39

I decided on my stance on this years ago. I saw an episode of Dog the Bounty Hunter where his daughter Lisa was in labor. As she was giving birth, the whole family was in there and she was being video taped. Absolutely not. Not only do I not need that many people seeing my hoo-ha, but I think I would just get really annoyed by everyone. It will only be DH when the time comes. My SIL is due in a couple of weeks and she told me she plans to only have her H in there too, and we all know mil will be furious. It will be interesting to see how she behaves.

abloom6510

I had my DH and Mom there along with the OB, nurses, a couple extra doctors and nurses, some med students and at one point a random lady that walked into the wrong room when my DS was born... The joys of giving birth early in a small local hospital... 

MNgirl326

For my first it was DH and my mom.   No one else was even at the hospital, they all got phone calls when he came.  When we have our next one, I would like to do it the same way.

I'm glad my mom could be there, it was a special moment for all of us.

But I'm also glad there wasn't a huge group of people there

 

23rmarie

In the room was DH and my midwife. I didn't want anyone else in there and my labor went from some contractions to pretty intense, fast labor. We didn't even call anyone until my DS was born but I also had him at 3:46 a.m. I had a natural/water birth. I was open to meds if I had to but I am so glad that I was able to do the water birth. Good luck to you:) I think you will probably choose who will be there that day:)

ho11yday

I loved that it was only DH, the midwife, and the nurse. DH has fond memories of helping with the birth.

MIL really wanted to be there but I'm not that close to her.  Besides at the time, I wanted to stab her with something dull and rusty.

My mom asked that I not include her in the experience.

LilacStar11

I have only had c/s so just DH in the room with me.  My mom really wanted to be more of a part of it so I am going to see if there is any other way I can incorporate her this go around.

Erica314

I've thought about this too, I want my mom in the room because she is a very experienced charge nurse and I think having her will be comforting and then just my fiancé. No one else!  I think MIL will be jealous, but oh well.

Although I was told by a midwife who was filling in for my ob/gyn at a yearly pap that I will never be able to give a vaginal birth (Something about my pelvic bones not being shaped correctly?) so who knows, I might just have to do a c/s and in that case I don't know if my mom would want to be there.

MMason12

I will have DH only to being with.  My Mom has been through quite a few surgeries with me though, so I could see myself in active labor asking my DH to get my Mom.  DH and I have talked about it, and other than him and my Mom no one will be allowed in the room while we are in active labor.  

While things aren't "rocking and rolling" I don't mind if our siblings, a few friends, parents and grandparents came in to see us.  I don't want any of his nieces of nephews in the room though. 

PunkyBooster

I had only DH. Will do that in the future. I also had a 26 hour labor. Not awful but long enough to want some privacy. ESP as my mucus plug fell out onto the floor. No one needed to see that.

Daisylola11

MMason12 said:

I will have DH only to being with.  My Mom has been through quite a few surgeries with me though, so I could see myself in active labor asking my DH to get my Mom.  DH and I have talked about it, and other than him and my Mom no one will be allowed in the room while we are in active labor.  

While things aren't "rocking and rolling" I don't mind if our siblings, a few friends, parents and grandparents came in to see us.  I don't want any of his nieces of nephews in the room though. 

Lol "rocking and rolling" love it!!!

susandnichols

My first, which ended in a C-Section, my DH and mom were supposed to be in the room. DH wasn't thrilled about the idea (he wanted it to be just us), but warmed up to the idea when he got light-headed during my epidural administration. If I could do a vaginal birth, I would want it to only be DH and me. If we end up having another one (fingers crossed,) we don't want to find out the sex prior to birth. We already know any future birth(s) will be c/s, though.

jnnfrrose6

The plan was DH and mom, but once I got to the hospital and LO was breech, only DH was allowed in the OR with me.  Next time around, if we go VBAC, I still want my mother in the room with us.