What do you think?

Elreid

So I am adopted. I know and am very close with my birth mother, but my birth father not so much. Today my birth fathers family, who I have only met once, told me that they were so excited for me and the baby that they were throwing us a baby shower.

A little background-my birth mother was raped at 13 by my birthfather and that is the reason I was placed for adoption. He has been addicted to drugs and alcohol and in and out of rehab and jail. His family is not like that, but I still don't know if I'm comfortable with it.

What would you do? Accept it and be glad they want to take part in it, or is it kindof weird?

Dr.Loretta

Beyond kind of weird. If you're not comfortable, politely decline.

aligross

If you aren't comfortable... don't do it! OR if you feel like you might offend them and want to maintain a relationship... ask if they would be willing to do a lunch at a restaurant somewhere or something more in the public light. 

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mommytoconnor

I personally think it is incredibly weird for them to have a shower for you or even really be contacting you to be honest.  It would push right past a boundary for me.  I would politely decline.

Elreid

Thanks for the responses I think we will be doing a meal at a restaurant and they will bring a gift if they want. Nothing too big, but in public where everyone feels more comfortable. i would like to get to know his family more, and i dont think they should have to be blamed for my birth fathers decisions...so good suggestion! Thanks