Serious question

mrs.schmitty

I recently found out that a friend/former colleague of mine was diagnosed with cancer. They actually missed it 2 years ago when she went in with severe abdominal/vaginal pain. She had a history of ovarian cysts and so they told her at the time that that's what it was. She was having problems again recently and they reviewed the scans and realized they had missed it then.

I haven't actually talked to her and have been receiving most of my info from a mutual friend (my former boss). I want to reach out to her in some way but I don't know what to say or do. We were fairly close but she is also very private and doesn't like people making a big deal out of her so I want her to know that I am thinking of her without making her feel uncomfortable or feel like I am intruding. I have her address and want to write her a letter but can't seem to find the right words to say. I've also thought about sending a gift or something (like flowers) because she recently had surgery. But again, nothing seems quiet appropriate.

Anyone been in this situation? What did you do?

mrs.schmitty

Thanks! That really helps actually. I have been having a totally mental block around this. Wanting to do something but not knowing what to do. I think I'm just still kind of in shock and feeling bad because I'm not there physically to really support her like I want to be.

mrs.schmitty

Thanks Ladies. I am definitely going to send her a card with a care package. I guess in my head I was feeling like I had to write some long, meaningful letter and/or make some big, grand gesture but she would probably really just appreciate a card saying "Thinking of you. Call me if you need me" with some magazines, movies and goodies.

@BrandiBee, or BrandiBeer, if you prefer : )  - I don't actually work there anymore but I did donate to our sick bank before I left. I did it every year for the 7 years that I was there.