WWPD? DH job issue

Rach21

It looks really promising that my DH is going to get a job in his career field (videography)—just so happens to be in Mobile, AL and we currently live in TN. And the pay isn't going to be what we hoped. Since my career field is pretty broad (BA in English, currently an editor) I feel like I could probably find a job in Mobile, though I would prefer to stay home with G for a little while since he's never been in daycare. (Our families live in the same town.) It's such a huge decision, but my DH's career field is so hit or miss I don't know if he'd have another opportunity like this. If we didn't take it and another job didn't come down the road, I'd be worried that he would feel resentment. I also know my parents (and his mom) are not going to understand if we move.

That being said, anyone live in the Mobile area? I've been looking online and I've read a lot of mixed reviews about Mobile which also make me a tad apprehensive about a possible move.

wiggyslilsis

I have no advice or experience but I just wanted to say good luck with this tough decision!

studyinpink

Good luck!

mrs.schmitty

Hi, I'm mostly a lurker here but wanted to respond because we recently went through a very similar situation. We moved from Boston (where all my family is and where I had lived my whole life) to Northern Virginia so DH could pursue his dream of joining the military as a psychologist. I also left my job as a public health program director and decided to stay home with my 2 year old DS. Like yours, my family was not thrilled with the idea although they did try to be supportive because they recognized it was a good opportunity for DH.

I'm a little over a month in, and although it's tough, I'm glad we did it. I am really enjoying being home with DS and taking a break from work. DH is really happy at work and feels like he is getting invaluable training experience. And honestly, I feel like I am not only growing stronger as a person and a mom but also in my relationship with DH because we're both having to rely more on each other and develop new support systems as well figure out who we are as individuals and as a family.

I know that probably sounds really sappy but I am pretty proud of myself and us. It was a big (and not easy) decision to make. And I know it will probably get tougher and there will be days when I'm like WTF did I do and that eventually I will probably want to move back home. But for now I am making the most of it.

That being said, I know next to nothing about Mobile, AL. We were in Montgomery recently for DH's graduation from officer's training. And for a Northeasterner, it was a little bit of a culture shock although I assume this would be less so the case for you being from the South but who knows?

My theory when we made this decision was that you can live with anything for a little while to try it. And if it doesn't work out, then you stick it out as long as you have to and then move back.  YKWIM?