s/o parties and over analyzing

ASmallWonder

I've got two different issues.  The first is that I'd like to throw a Halloween party for the many toddlers I know (I did one last year).  Issue is that my nephew's bday is on Halloween and he'll have a party.  I texted my SIL to give her first dibs on a party date and she's blown me off.  How long do I let the first dibs thing stand before I just plan mine?

Second issue and this one is far off but yeah, I'm annoying like that.  When I was pregnant with DS1, 4 of my coworkers were pregnant as well so we just sort of became a group who did all the birthday parties for all the kids.  I don't know what to do about DS2's birthday when the time comes.  These friends (we're friends in a casual, see each other a few times a year way) don't have kids his age so I feel like it's awkward to invite them to his birthday.  We have a built in reason with the older ones, kwim?  But my poor little Squish isn't going to have anyone at his party since he'll only be one and not old enough for friends lol

ABColeslaw

I would call SIL and say "I really need to know because we don't want to miss out on Jax's party"  Asher will come to Q Dawgs party  

ASmallWonder

ABColeslaw said:

I would call SIL and say "I really need to know because we don't want to miss out on Jax's party"  Asher will come to Q Dawgs party  

Well duh, of course you guys are coming.  You fall outside the friend circle and more in the family circle