Ugh. Monthly appointments!!

fairy_diva

Ok quick vent... I hate the monthly appointments until 28 weeks!!! I want to hear my baby's heartbeat and be reassured he/she is ok and still beating. I want the OB to look via ultrasound and tell me everything is growing as it should. I'm a nurse and this is my second but I think it's cruel to make us wait 4 weeks between appts. My OB did say because I'm 40 this time, vs 38 last time, she may start seeing me biweekly earlier but she's waiting to see how I progress.
My first pregnancy ended in MC before my LO was born. I feel like I dealt pretty well with that but it has caused more anxiety with both my pregnancies after. I swear I cried like a baby 2 weeks ago when I saw and heard my LO, it was such a relief. I know most if not all of you understand that. All I hear from some people is how old I am and the increased risks I have. I know logically my risks for most problems are the same as a 23 year old but it still plays on my mind. I have the option of the genetic maternal blood testing at my new appointment but I swear I may go insane just waiting for the results if we decide to do the test. I haven't brought it up to my DH yet because I feel like I'm allowing myself to believe something could be wrong with my baby. We choose last pregnancy not to have the invasive testing. My insurance didn't cover the NT and I didn't like the MC risks associated with an amino. We both decided that we were trusting in God to take care of our baby and termination wasn't and isn't an option. I don't know, most days I'm fine but every now and then those little doubts creep in
Btw my OB is great and other than the typical required by law never mentions my age or the dreaded AMA. She was very encouraging when I discussed the possibility of trying for a second baby. She's been very supportive and actually freely admits that probably 50% of her patients are over 35. They even have one downs pregnancy and that mom is 19
I guess I'm having a bad nausea night and some worry time on top of that. Lol. Thanks for listening to a crazy pregnant woman tonight

LucyRicardo3

I sort of know what you mean. I have to start weekly 17p injections today (won't be seeing the doctor) and I was joking with DH last night about slipping the nurse $20 for a doppler check, lol.

O:-)

funchicken

I know it sucks to wait 4 weeks to have reassurance that things are okay. My first pregnancy ended in a m/c, too, but I'm 17 weeks (can't get my stupid ticker to work) and I've been feeling the baby move. It gets stronger every day. Soon you'll have that reassurance, too, and the appts won't seem so far apart. H&H 9 months!

mlamping

I know what you mean. I got a doppler this time and I paid for extra ultrasounds too, just to make sure baby is ok. I had a lot of complications already and I am very scared. Maybe ask if you can go in to a heartbeat check every week and nothing else? My doc lets me, but I rather see it too. 

Good Luck 

kw42775

I know how you feel, too! I'm 21 weeks and hate waiting for four weeks for appointments. I'm wishing my doctor would tell me to come in more often (I'm 38yo)!

icogburn

I know how you feel. I bought a doppler to use at home and it has eased a lot of my fears. But I agree, monthly appointments are TOUGH!

Guennie

I just want to give you a hug. I know it's hard, hang in there momma! Focus on the positive, that's what got me through it!

fairy_diva

Thank you all for your thoughts and hugs just knowing other mommys understand make me feel better and not like I'm loosing my mind. One thing about the non stop nausea, it seems to give me comfort my LO is growing.