How do you do Halloween?

SimpleJane

Last year XH and I took the kids together without J. XH and J dont get along and it would have made a fun night for the kids awkward. J wasn't happy. I cant stand to think about missing Halloween with the kids though.

Lavender P

We never get SS for Halloween because it has never fallen on our weekend and of course BM won't share. I think it might be nice for the kids if you and J took them for an hour and then XH can take them for an hour too. It seems like you and your X have a fairly good relationship so I think it might work if you are close enough physically that he won't spend a lot of time just for an hour.

Sunday924

We had SS the first 4 years and BM had him last year and will this year too. It just depends how it falls. The first year we all went together and it was very awkward so never again. We send each other pictures.

+just+j+

We will probably do seperate events with her.  There will be plenty of trick or treating type events where I live and he lives and we'll do our own thing.  

cole2144

Since DH and BM never had a CO, BM refused to share. Since DH won 50/50 custody, he also won the argument to include Halloween in the list of alternating holidays so we will have SD this year. I`m excited for to have all the kids for LO`s first Halloween.

agibby

BM and DH rotate holidays and Halloween is one of them. Works OK for us. If it's not our year with SS for Halloween, we find something to take him to on our week. This year we'll be taking the kids to a Halloween trick or treating event the weekend before.

KTdidit

andrea99 said:

In the new CO, it says that if Halloween is on a school night, she stays with us, but if it's on weekend (even if it's not BM's CO'd weekend) BM gets her.

I think this is a good thing to consider. In the Indiana parenting guidelines Halloween is a rotating holiday so BD is supposed to get DS this year.

twister22

Halloween just happens as it falls, so it usually ends up that I get DS. Technically BD could get DS this year, because it falls on his off week Thursday 4-7p visit, but BD hasn't taken one of those in over 2 years. So I doubt he will notice/ask, especially since he wont' have his DD.

However, BD goes to a campground that always does a Halloween celebration the weekend before Halloween. There's a big party, everyone decorates their campers, and kids can go trick or treating from camper to camper. BD always takes our DS and his DD on this weekend, and we'll just switch weekends if it's supposed to be my weekend. This year it falls on his weekend.

fellesferie

XH has never done Halloween with DS. And at this point, I would not want him do. 

We do SO many things as a family. Community church trunk-or-treats, hay mazes, neighborhood stuff with friends, etc. It's my favorite time of year, and I'd hate for DS to miss things.

Jane: J and your XH couldn't get along for one night? Is splitting the night an option? Like an hour of trick or treat with you/J and an hour with XH? 

Nineoceans

We alternate. I would never spend a holiday with BM and Dh feels the same way.

SimpleJane

fellesferie said:

XH has never done Halloween with DS. And at this point, I would not want him do. 

We do SO many things as a family. Community church trunk-or-treats, hay mazes, neighborhood stuff with friends, etc. It's my favorite time of year, and I'd hate for DS to miss things.

Jane: J and your XH couldn't get along for one night? Is splitting the night an option? Like an hour of trick or treat with you/J and an hour with XH? 

unfortunately, even if I convinced them both to go it would be awkward and uncomfortable and im sure would make things less fun for the kids

new+tothis

I'm pretty sure Halloween is not in our CO for rotated holidays. Usually I take DS to a fall festival earlier in the month then the weekend before Halloween take him to a kiddie trick or treat thing at a local farm. Last year on Halloween I think we went to a church sponsored trick or treat on the actual night. This year we will do fall festival in early October and Halloween thing the Sunday before. I'm guessing his dad will take him trick or treating with his girlfriend and girlfriend's daughter on Halloween. I doubt BD would ever ask me for extra time or to alternate or anything but if he did I would.

katie_cj

I get Halloween, unless it falls on a Saturday, then I suppose I would let his dad have him. We live three hours apart, DS will not miss school in order to spend Halloween with his dad. It's just the way it is.

Sigir

I hate Halloween so I am happy when it falls on exh's day! So maybe I am in the minority there.., but we just take it as it falls.

jamiegrenz

We split it and last year XH just came with DH and I and LO.  That worked well and we all get along.

XH's gf has gotten really controlling in the last 8 months about his co-parenting ways with us so it might not be so civil this year so hopefully we can at least split it. I can't imagine NOT seeing LO on Halloween

dmndsr4eva

I usually take my son to a halloween event the weekend before.  They have a big thing at the zoo here.  Then he has always been with his dad on the actual halloween day because it will during his time for the next several years.

I just don't make a big deal out of missing the actual day because there is so much to do during that holiday.  Last year I also took him to the big huge pumpkin patch they have nearby.  It is a big farm type place with rides and food booths and a hay ride.

MegJ17

I think our CO has us switching every other year but that may not matter since in my neighborhood we do trick or treating the weekend before and in ExH neighborhood they do it on halloween. The only issue would be if halloween falls on a weekend.