Torn about having a 3rd child!

Lgerner31

My children are 3 and 16 months and I can't stop thinking about having a 3rd! I know my hubby is not on board right now. I'm sure if I tell him I really want to try he will probably be on board anyone going through ths right now. I just don't want to regret nt having a 3rd but I also don't want to put us ver the edge with a 3rd!

LilacStar11

We were just in that boat.  DD turns 3 tomorrow and DS is 19 months.  We really wanted a third and I knew as a Mother, I was not done.  We discussed the few things that we thought were the downside to having a 3rd child and decided that none of them weighed against the numerous positives. 

jeffrae

Yes, me. I posted on the toddler boards. I want three, dh wants two. We will have the talk this week. I have pushed out the talk for a year now. I am trying to get myself prepared for only two kids....not sure how I would deal with that without feeling like my family is complete.

Kristinmo

I think we are done. In fact, I am 99% sure we are done. Honestly, with unlimited funds for daycare, I would have 1-2 more but we would have to give up a portion of our lifestyle to have another and I don't think I'm willing to do that.

PunkyBooster

The way I'm looking at it is if I'm on my deathbed I might think, I really wish I'd had one more.

I seriously doubt i would say, I really wish I hadn't had our last child.

LilacStar11

PunkyBooster said:

The way I'm looking at it is if I'm on my deathbed I might think, I really wish I'd had one more. I seriously doubt i would say, I really wish I hadn't had our last child.

This was one of my main points.  There is no way I would ever say, I wish we had not had this third baby.  I know that it would forever be on my mind had we decided not to have a third and I almost would have felt incomplete.

MamaBovs

We're planning to start trying for #3 next month!  Mine are further apart than yours though (2 girls - 6 & 2.5) so I've had more time to process everything and get on board   Still go back & forth some days on whether it's a good idea (financially & sanity-wise), but as PPs mentioned, long-term you will likely never regret it!

ho11yday

My mom regrets not having a third child; I don't want to be like that.  I also see the relationship DH has with his three sisters and I wish I had more siblings. 

DH wants to have only 2 but he promised me during a health crisis we'd have 3.  I know I shouldn't hold him to something he promised when he was stressed but I want at least 3 children. (Would love 4, but that is definitely out of the question.)

jasrun80

Mine are 3 & 13 months & we want another too. My dh did not after our second but I've talked with him enough about it since January and now he's totally on board. I also just don't "feel done" even though I don't know what that means or if all women feel this way but I'm starting to imagine us with 4 & that's a lot of kids ! I saw a palm reader last night at a festival & she said I'd have 3. Ha! We will see! I hope so!