One more shower question?

casholmes

While we're on the subject

My MIL got to talking about showers tonight, and even though I said I knew I probably wouldn't have one, she insist that I "have to". She then started listing all the people that would want to come. The only thing is though, is that she named a few people that I really wouldn't want there and that honestly would probably find an invite weird. Her friend that I have met once probably doesn't want to come to my shower. And she named a couple of people that are (were) friends of DH's, but they're into drugs and steal stuff, and frankly I wouldn't want them there.

If she does end up throwing the shower, should I just let her invite whoever she wants or is it okay to gently veto a couple of the guest choices (although not sure how I'd go about it)?

COgirl29

I'd say its ok to veto some of her ideas with guests! Especially the friends that are into drugs and stealing, I would let the friend of hers you met once slide though. My MIL did the same thing with my bridal shower and I would imagine she will do the same for the baby shower, I think part of it is they sometimes want people there that are important to them - and share their family excitement with.

lmills730

I think its okay to veto some of yours and DH's friends that you might not want there but if she is throwing the shower, I think you'll have to deal with some of her friends being there.

jldubb0626

Yes, you get to tell her you don't want people who do drugs at your baby shower. But, I think as long as she's inviting people you want there, you may just have to deal with her friends being there. She is hosting and if her friends are willing to come and enjoy themselves, why not?

cyndilouwho77

Also on team veto for those DH friends, but I think you are stuck with anyone of her friends she would want to invite.  You can get let her know that you are not close to those other friends anymore and maybe add someone that she might have left off.

megngregk

Ditto pp about the clepto druggies. You don't have to invite them. Does MIL know they are into such things? Maybe a gentle explanation of why you'd prefer they not be on the list would be in order if she seems insistent. I'd let her invite her friends, though.

LadyJ2949

megngregk said:

Ditto pp about the clepto druggies. You don't have to invite them. Does MIL know they are into such things? Maybe a gentle explanation of why you'd prefer they not be on the list would be in order if she seems insistent. I'd let her invite her friends, though.

This exactly.