I feel like such a terrible person! This week I've been really sensitive to the presence of pregnancy and babies and it makes me want to burst into tears. Another friend pregnant this week, a few on Facebook counting down the milestones of pregnancy, posting ultrasound pics - and complaining about sickness!! Arg I'd do anything for heartburn you bitch! See what I mean? It's turning me into this horrible person! Am I alone?
Re: Envy making anyone else crazy??
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
You're not a terrible person! We can all relate. I still can't bring myself to visit my friend who just had a baby quite as often as I should (considering she lives 3 miles from me). You want to be happy for them, but you also have to take your mental health and sanity into consideration.
Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!
4 rounds of clomid, 2 with IUI = BFN
**Follow your heart, but take your brain with you**
Me: 30 dx w/PCOS 7/13
DH: 31
TTC 11/12
started Metformin 9/13
HSG, tubes open but narrow uterus... f/u with RE 3d u/s everything 'normal'
2/14: hopefully 1st IUI... timing off before trip, waiting until 4/14
3/27: POAS= BFP!!!
3/28: beta#1: 108
4/2: beta#2: 799
4/11: u/s 6w1d EDD 12/4, 1 little penguin!
7/7: We're having a girl!
12/11: after lots of labor/delivery/nicu excitment baby Piper Mae born 1859 @ 8lbs, 21.5"
AlaskaDee23 your positivity is great! Just a question about what you said about prayer. I'm finding it really hard to trust God is looking out for me. It's do hard not to feel completely abandoned- especially when I've trusted so much in the past that God would bless me with a child. I just don't understand why God would let me go through all this. I keep finding myself saying it makes no difference whether I pray or not!
I know I personally struggled with this for a while. I felt frustrated or angry with God because why would he give babies to drug addicts or even just someone who couldn't afford a child, but not give one to me? I was okay with going through a bit of a struggle, but I wanted to know why he was making it so hard. I also wanted to know why he would build up my hopes three times to just take it away time and time again. I think it is natural to struggle with staying faithful when you are being tested so much, so don't worry about that. For me, I stopped being frustrated when I realized that there are a lot of things that God sees that don't always seem fair. Why do good people get cancer? Or MS? Or any other terrible thing? I just decided that I have to trust (and it took months for me to get here). We don't always get to know why we are on this path when we are on it, frustrating but okay. And I also remind myself that I will be a parent on day, I just don't know yet how that is going to happen. It might be my biological child or not, but I trust that someday I will have a child to love. *sorry paragraphs were eaten by iPad bumping.
4 rounds of clomid, 2 with IUI = BFN
Sorry for all the quote trees, I'm mobile bumping.
I struggled with how my religion fit into all of this as well. The more I studied it, I realized that all of God's favorite women in the Bible struggled with Infertility, Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel, etc. God told them that it took a little more time to make the perfect child for them, because they will be destined for great things. I just always try to pray to God to give me the patience to wait for our perfect child.
A book I love is Pregnant With Hope by Susan Radulovacki. It gives insight as well as other couple's struggles on the IF journey.
Hope that helps!!!
And trust me, my positivity is only due to being a week into a new cycle... lol... I am usually devastated the first two days, then comes the feeling of "it is another cycle maybe this will be it"... then the week before I start I am contemplating if we did enough...
I think what I'm learning is that you feel how you feel, try not to let the negative consume you, but you don't need to beat yourself up for feeling jealous or envious, angry or sad.
Team Purple!!!!
IVF/FET #1 - BFP!!
CJW 6/15/2014
DX - PCOS 2004
FET #2 - scheduled for 11/24/15
Team Purple!!!!
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