Team Pink (long)

cyndilouwho77

I know I posted on FB but wanted to share here too..

It was a rough day yesterday, we found out we were having a little girl and my husband literally went off the deep end.  My DD's were so excited during the u/s that they were fighting over whom would get to share their room with the baby and all about the baby growing up to be a dancer.  My husband basically told them to stop, and to not bring up dance again because he hates it.  Now mind you I have two dancers at home...so they were crushed.  So right after the u/s we went over to the OB apt. where he sulked and stated he hated the new office (It has a playground, free food and coffee, basically the works) So I asked him if he was ok?  He told me it was just going to take awhile to get over the loss of a boy...wtf, really?  We didnt loose anything....we gained a girl.  So I backed off since we were in public and let him just be....we get home and right away he goes back to bed and sleeps for 4 hours.  I am thinking his nap would change his nasty attitude, yeah well that was wishful thinking.  So during all the this time my DD's and I are sulking because we can't tell anyone the exciting news or celebrate the fact that we are having a little girl.  I literally couldnt stop crying....after he got up it turned into a full on fight, cussing and all (not in front of my girls)!  I was seriously so hurt and upset.  After we dropped the girls at dance (he didnt want to stay and watch) I just sat in the car cause well I didnt know where to go, I usually sit and watch the girls.  He finally asks to go to BrU, so fine...I drive to BrU and just follow him around as he plays with all the stuff we already had on the registry.  He decides to start adding and changing things which is fine by me.....then he finally scans something pink.  I finally asked him if we could tell people cause they all knew I was going to find out that day and he said yes, so he bought the baby a pink outfit with Monkeys on it so that we could post a pic.  He is slowly turning around, but now that he is back in SD I wont be bringing it up again with him until he does...and I will just cont to celebrate with all my friends and family that are excited. 

Yay for little girls.....they are really all I know! 

dland0201

Glad he's starting to come around. Congrats on your little girl!

Shannahbee

Wow, good for you for keeping your cool. I would have lost my shit.

cyndilouwho77

@Shannahbee it wasnt easy.....I did tell him to "Grow The Fuck Up" at one point because I was so beyond piseed off!

LadyJ2949

cyndilouwho77 said:

@Shannahbee it wasnt easy.....I did tell him to "Grow The Fuck Up" at one point because I was so beyond piseed off!

Sounds like it was totally deserved.    I'm glad he's starting to come around but I would have been (and most likely still would be) very hurt by his actions. 

MeganWorden

Oh I am sorry your H was acting like that! I am glad he seems to be coming around. I will admit it took my DH a good 10 mins during our u/s to come around to the idea of LO being a boy. I only noticed because he was really quiet then finally said "well that's good I guess. I like our boy theme for the nursery better anyway." He really, really wanted a girl (He loves his niece very much and wanted a girl of his own) Silly husbands!

HOORAY FOR LITTLE GIRLS!! 

ksonne

Congrats on a girl! I really loved how you said we aren't "losing" anything, but gaining another daughter. I think that's a powerful perspective for anyone who is upset regarding the sex of their child.

Dishylo

Hooray for a healthy baby!! I'm sorry his immediate reaction was so negative, that must have been really hard for you to deal with. I'm also glad he's coming around and hope he stays positive!

aessary03

Glad to hear he finally is starting to not be a jerk to you!   

I know he'll come around, but I felt so bad that you had to endure all that.  Glad that he's being more gracious about his coming daughter.

lmills730

MeganWorden said:

Oh I am sorry your H was acting like that! I am glad he seems to be coming around. I will admit it took my DH a good 10 mins during our u/s to come around to the idea of LO being a boy. I only noticed because he was really quiet then finally said "well that's good I guess. I like our boy theme for the nursery better anyway." He really, really wanted a girl (He loves his niece very much and wanted a girl of his own) Silly husbands!

HOORAY FOR LITTLE GIRLS!! 

DH also wanted a little girl and was more quiet during the U/S, but now we are a few days later and he's definitely very excited to have a son.

OP- I'm so glad he's coming around. He will be excited for sure in a bit

twobluelines

I am glad he is coming around. I bet anything she'll be daddy's little girl.

HappyDoc

First off, congrats on your little baby girl! For DH and I, this will be our first and only child. He wanted a little boy and I wanted a little girl, before we found out gender, we would joke back and forth about it. The day we found out, he was sad for about 2 hours, and while I was thrilled about having a girl, I was so sad that he wasn't as happy as I was. He has totally come around now, and always talks about his "little girl," which is a relief. I am so glad to hear that your husband is coming around

Cara1024

Congrats on a baby girl! I'm so sorry your happy day was actually so frustrating. Glad he is coming around now, but man what an awful first reaction.

cyndilouwho77

Yeah it was pretty tough.....he wouldnt even get close to my belly, until we ran into one of his best friends (and a whole group of Jeeping Buddies) and he hugged me and rubbed my belly and talked to my belly.  The group teased my husband that his buddy was playing with his baby, it was the first time he smiled all day.  I also think it made him realize that this baby wasnt going anywhere regardless of sex!

Arrgcr

I'm glad he's coming around. I'm sorry for everything you were out through. I would have been on fire around him.

moosebaby2011

Congratulations on your baby girl! Your DH's reaction was pretty extreme. I'm sorry you (and your daughters) had to deal with that but I am glad to hear that he's coming around.

jldubb0626

I'm glad he's coming around sweetie!

apickett925

Congratulations on your 3rd girl!!  I know my husband realllllly wants a little boy, but I know he loves his little sisters that are 10 and 12 years younger then him and would love a little girl.  But he wants a son.  When we were buying our house, one of his requirements was "a yard he could throw a football with his son in"-that was 3 years ago, before we were even engaged!  I know he's going to be a cranky-pants if there's no penis on the screen during the a/s, but will come around after some good sulking.  

BuckeyeMommy4

I'm glad his attitude is changing! Hope you get to do lots of celebrating!

OSUWifey09

Congrats on your little girl! But I'm sorry you had to deal with such a negative reaction. I'm glad he's coming around - and that you kept your cool - but that's still tough. H was really quiet for awhile, too, after I told him baby was a girl. He admitted he wanted another boy, but he was happy she was healthy and on track. I hope you get to enjoy celebrating the great news with friends, family and your girls!

megngregk

If he doesn't come around, I know a lot of bumpies that will kick his butt

kw42775

My DH was also upset that we weren't having a boy (it's our first). Her room can't be any shade of blue because "that's a boy's color". He has came around, though, and was happy I got a little plaque that said "daddy's little princess"!