Ugh. Getting my DD dressed in the morning is such a struggle. She'll see what I picked out for her to wear and she immediately will say "NO! Not that one" She will fight me tooth and nail while I dress her. Once I get her dressed, she will proceed to take the offensive outfit off. My DH will give in to her and let her wear what she wants (I don't agree, cause she needs to learn that what I pick out for her is what she has to wear).
School starts next week and I don't have the time in the morning to be fighting her. I try to be tough, but she still throws a fit and strips off the clothes anyway. Any advice?
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I let my kid pick too. She comes up with some godawful stuff, but really she's either going to daycare or Target with me, WTH cares?
I just put away anything I don't want her to wear.
I taught my kid about dirty laundry too and kind of over-emphasized it. So now she throws her clothes at night in her hamper and says "Wash." On Saturdays when I do hers, she brings me the basket all excited.
Also, if I know her faves are in the wash, I will pick out two outfits, shut the closet door and let her pick from those.
I'm in negotiations all day. I'm not fighting this battle too.
Something else that you could try that I've heard as a way of fostering your child's independence is to get a little plastic dresser with drawers that are easy to open. Put a whole outfit in each drawer, and she can pick her outfit every day.
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DD will also choose her favorite shirt if she sees it. Preschool teachers know how toddlers are. DD's teachers were always amused at her extremely fancy and mismatching outfits (she insisted on wearing a fake fur coat and sunglasses to school when it was 70 degrees - I hid the coat that night). When I felt silly bringing DD to school in one of her crazy outfits, I saw that another boy in her class was wearing a tie that his mom said he was insistent on wearing every day.
Even though I often dislike the insane combinations, I like seeing her develop and learn how to dress herself and take pride in what she's wearing. And I definitely prefer laying out a couple of outfits and letting her happily choose to trying to force her into her clothes (we did that too for a couple of days before realizing the issue was that she wanted to choose something else).
Don't look at it as being defiant but as allowing her to start to think for herself and be independent. Believe me, if you become one of those moms that hover and control it will bite you in the ass big time later on when she has the inability to make a decision on her own.
I'm with OP, my DD is over the top with chosing her own clothing, chosing from 2 outfits doesn't work she starts opening drawers and pulling stuff out of them. But now that it's getting chilly, she refuses to wear anything but spagetti strap dresses, shorts and no socks or sweater.
So we fight about that daily and most of the time i send her as hoping if she's cold, she'll ask daycare to put on more clothes. To me Its more about her listening to parents and following directions, which she doesn't do; btw we spend an hour fighting about wearing socks today, she finally gave up, it was ridiculous.
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One picture day is an exception but prepare her in advance. Get her reallllly excited about the new dress she's wearing.
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Thanks for all of your responses and perspectives. Agree fighting about socks for an hour is ridiculous, it was Saturday and i wanted to make a point. I can't take dresses and shorts out of the drawer yet because here weather keeps changing, it'll be 85 tomorrow and low of 54 today.
I'll try to pick battles better and focus on more important stuff.