Should my DH come to the first appointment?

MrsSmith0312 · August 2013

My first doctors appt is in 3 weeks (I will be at 9 weeks). Should my DH come along?

twinlove314 · August 2013

If you're having an u/s, absolutely!

thomas930 · August 2013

Mine did, there is a lot of info given out at the first appointment so its always nice to have extra ears and he can also find out what to expect or ask any questions he might have.

PaddysGirl8 · August 2013

My first appointment I got an US, hubby loved seeing baby and the heartbeat.

Laroo0220 · August 2013

In my opinion it depends if they're doing an ultrasound. I'm not sure they would try the Doppler that early so if they're just doing a pelvic exam it may not be worth it. Im having my dh come to my first but I will be 12 wks so I know we should be able to hear the heartbeat. After that I probably won't have him come. A lot of those appts are less exciting than you expect.

LittleLady77 · August 2013

I would do everything I can to get him there if I was having an ultrasound. If he can't get out of work try to FaceTime him in or record the ultrasound for him.

deidremaria · August 2013

My first was pretty boring. I'm kinda glad I didn't have him come. We didnt even do the pelvic exam because I'd had one a couple weeks before so I just brought my results. He says he'll come to the 12 wk one. I'm definitely bringing him along for the ultrasound though.

patunia7321 · August 2013

I would say it depends on your dr and what's going on. I was just having an exam by the PA (called to make sure nothing exciting was going to happen. So dh didn't come.) The doc came in to talk to me for a min and I mentioned how excited I am for my upcoming ultrasound and he says... 'Oh great, yeah that's exciting, want me to do a quick one now for a sneak peek?' I almost died because I just HAD TO SAY NO. Ahhhh!! I swore to DH that he wouldn't miss anything, this is our first, and it wasn't like he couldn't come. I told him not to because it would have just been sitting waiting while I had a pelvic exam. Ugh. Talk about self control. Going tomorrow for the u/s!

Christinekeyser · August 2013

I had my DH come with me because I had a separate appointment for the u/s. I didn't ask him to go with me to the 8w appt because I knew it wasn't going to be very exciting. I am sure that he'll come along when we have another u/s.

MrsSmith0312 · August 2013

Great! Thanks ladies! I'll have to call and see if there will be an u/s - I really hope there will be!

Mandyw75 · August 2013

Mine came and it was boring.. He said about 3 words and when she did a breast exam (no idea where that came from) she said to him that he should learn this too. He looked like a deer in the headlights... lol

If there is nothing exciting happening then I probably wouldn't bring him. But every guy is different.

CalinAZ · August 2013

Mine is not going to have an u/s, just bloodwork and physical exams, so it works out fine that DH cannot come. I really want him to be there for the next one, though.

ksr53777 · August 2013

I think it's really up to your DH after you explain what will be happening. Mine isn't coming as he'll be home with the other 3 children, even though they will be doing an U/S. He came for the first appointment for our 2nd and 3rd, but not the first as I didn't realize at the time they would do an U/S the first appointment. While I would like him to be there in case things aren't good (i.e. no heartbeat) I wouldn't want my other children there if that were the case. And I wasn't willing to wait an extra 2 weeks to get in on a day we would have other childcare options. I think it's bad enough I have to wait until I'm 8 weeks as it is. So jealous of everyone on here who has already seen their little beans!

Mustardseed2007 · August 2013

Mine is coming to all my appointments. I want his support in general, but also in case something goes wrong. But, he's a good trooper, so it probably depends on the guy. He came to all of them with my first.

If they do a pelvic exam just have him stand next to your shoulder.

JessieAlbin · August 2013

DH was on the fence about coming to our first appt next Thursday but decided since there was an ultrasound and I told him how nervous I am about all the "what ifs" that he would take a few hours off and meet me there. He wants to save his time off for the biggies later on and I told him it was his call but I am soooo glad he's coming. Also super jealous of everyone who has already had face time with their doc and an u/s!

Stasi · August 2013

They do give you a lot of information at the first appointment. You can also ask your OB to give you a basic run down of what appointments/ultrasounds/tests you'll be ahving throughout the pregnancy so your DH can get a handle on what you'll be doing. Then it might help him figure out what he wants to come to.

Personally, my DH came to my first appointment, all 3 ultrasounds and one or two random ones at the end when I met with different OBs that could be potentially delivering the baby.

MrsT1024 · August 2013

My first appt was basically the confirmation appt. Quick pelvic exam and some blood work. Nothing too interesting as far as DH would have been concerned. He is going to the sonogram this afternoon but for the usual office visits (glucose test and check-ins), I tell him not to bother. He likes going to the ultrasounds and later ones though so he can hear the heartbeat and all that.