Tonight the twins were in tae kwon do, Alex hanging out in the "kids area" where they leave shoes sitting at a table with her ipad. A toddler came in and was watching her, so she opened a younger program and let her play with it. AN older kid came for class saw the girls and took the ipad from them and started watching something on it. DD didn't come and get me because we told her she is never to leave it. She told him it was still the girl's turn and he ignored her. I came back to check on her and the boy had it. She didn't seem distressed, but I told her to get the ipad and come sit with me. She asked for it and he shoulder checked her and said "hold on." I said "Young man, give her her ipad now, please" and he growled "hold on! then closed and kind of slammed it on the table toward her.
I am beyond ticked. My gut is to hunt him down and address him and his parent and tell them if he touches my daughter or her property again there's going to be a problem. But then I thought maybe allow the studio know so they can address it with the older kids. That feels like a tattle tale, but then in a studio that focuses on courtesy and respect, they should be able to address it. How would you handle it?
I've addressed it with DD and bullying, and getting help vs. tattling (she thought because she is a gold belt and he is a green belt that she had to take it.). I do not want her to be a doormat and in the future I hope she will seek help. But even as I type this I'm wondering where the line is between fighting her battles and standing up for her.