New Baby???

Mann2Be

So I have a two year old son. So far he has been the only child, but I'm currently pregnant with baby #2. I am curious on how my son will act with the arrival of his sister. I'm not due till November and he is still to young to grasp the concept that there is a human inside of momma lol.

Did any of you moms have an issue with your toddler around the baby?? He can be pretty mean to our dog sometimes.....

AimeeL85

My son turned 2 a few days after his sister was born.  I was worried, too, but truly have never had a problem.  He adores her and loves her to pieces. Sometimes gets a bit annoyed now that she's started grabbing his toys, but nothing major.

He went through a phase of being mean to our cats, but stopped...he's never been mean to his sister!

sschwege

DD was 2 1/4 when DS came.  She absolutely adored him, used to tell me all the time, "I'm glad Noah's here."  The problems started to surface once DS could sit.  Now she seems not to know what to do with him.  I think she struggles with wanting to play with him, but he's still pretty little and also just testing boundaries.  She can be pretty rough with him at times.  Now that he started crawling two days ago a whole new set of problems are starting to come to up.  But the first six months or so were easy.

Mrsmedina178

My DD was 3 when DS was born and she just seemed to act out a little from the attention being on him. Other than that she was great with him being there. She absolutely loved/loves him. If he does act out maybe just kindly remind him baby is very fragile. But it should be fine. Good luck!! Also my DS will soon be 4 and I'm pregnant lol so I'm hoping he'll accept the baby (since now he says he's still the baby).

Mann2Be

So glad to hear that you guys didn't really have an issue I hope my son is as good about his sibling when she arrives. I had a friend who just recently had her first kid and my son did ok around him. More than anything he didn't really know what to think lol.

luvmyducks

DD1 was almost 22m when DD2 was born. She's been great with her--loves to give her kisses and hugs. We just have to watch her bc when she goes to hug/kiss LO, she can put too much of her weight on her.

SeptMommyX2

DS will turn 2-yrs-old 5 days before my EDD (9/16).  I'm terrified that he won't accept her or feel that she is a threat to him.  We've been playing with dolls and he like to rock one while singing to it.  He also knows that baby is in mommy's tummy... but he may just think that "baby" is a condition that mommy has, which is making her fat.  Also, his favorite word currently is "mine," and he considers all of baby's things as his. I hope I'm just being hormonal and over-thinking everything.

flyingsaucer

DS was 2.9 when we had DD. I did not tell him that we were having a baby until I was pretty far along in the pregnancy. I did not want him to have months and months to think about it. When DD was born, we bought a gift to the hospital to the big brother from the baby. He was thrilled. He was really great about her from the beginning. The still get along really well and DS just adores DD. I think the beginning is not so bad because newborns sleep a lot and don't move around so they are not much of a "threat" to the older sibling. I think it got a little tougher once DD was mobile and could snatch toys! But by then DS already loved her, so he was willing to put up with some of her toddler behavior :-)

PepperBug

My son was just under 2 when I became pregnant with my daughter. At that point, he had no idea what was going on. As he was able to grasp more, we have him more information. By the time she was born, he was 2 and a half and understood that a baby was going to come out of mummy's belly, she would be his sister and she would live with us. We have had no problems with him since. He loved her from the day he met her. And now that she's 5 months old, he is the only one who can make her laugh. He sometimes hugs or kisses her too roughly, but we have had no major incidents with it.

Caseyk1127

My LOs are 14 months apart. DS pretty much ignored DD until she started to crawl. Now he loves plying with her, hugs and kisses. He can get a little rough when she takes a toy from him. It went much smoother than I ever expected.

candr09

DD was 25 months when DS was born. We tried to prepare her by buying her baby dolls and showing her how to care for a baby. We also started trying to teach her patience and taking turns before he arrived.

He is 8 months now and they absolutely adore each other! It feels like DD was always meant to be a big sister, she fell into the role so naturally. It was kind of surprising because she was never really around other kids (no daycare or cousins or anything). We had no problems at all.

A lot if hospitals offer "big sibling" classes. It might be something worth looking into. Good luck!

LSU628

Sorry to be Debby Downer, but she had a pretty tough time when DS was born. She was almost 3 1/2. She had a total regression wiht potty training, starting crawling and telling us she was a baby. DH and I sort of developed a system where he would play with her, take her outside, and give her lots of 1:1 attention while I was inside nursing DS or sleeping. It seemed to help. I also let her help me with DS. She would help pick out diapers, pick out which towel and washcloth he used, which PJs he wore, it went a long way to help her feel included.

jeffrae

Ours are 20 mth apart to the day. It has been smooth sailing for us up until last week when dd1 threw a ukulele at dd2 and caused four stitches. But that was just rough housing....