In reading though past discussions, I noticed that a good number of you are ok in your OAD decision because you are close with family and your child will grow up with cousins, so you feel confident that your only will have familial bonds with children their own age and will have lifelong instant friends (for lack of a better phrase...).
I'm just curious, does anyone else not have this? My sister is still in college and not having kids anytime soon, and DH's sister doesn't foresee herself having any kids at all. And actually, DH and I dream of moving across the country, on the opposite coast from any family anyway. I'm kinda just banking on DS making friends in school, around the neighborhood, etc.
Re: OAD with no cousins?
DH's brother has a daughter who is 1.5 years older than DD. But we haven't seen DH's brother in 6 years, and obviously never met his daughter. My brother is 31, not dating and not married, so there wn't be kids anytime soon.
I have several cousins with children, but we will really only see each other on holidays. We're just not that close.
We're hoping that DD will make a lot of friends in school and the neighborhood.
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Well, she's about to have her first in many many months. My sister in law just found out she's pregnant. That said, she kindaaaaa lives across the ocean in Holland. So.
My baby brother is 21 and in college. He's engaged and getting married next May. Don't think a kid will be happening, they haven't even had sex. So we'd need a stork there.
My other brother (28) was married last year. That would be our best bet! But they live 5 hours or so away. So..
No, no cousins.
She's in school, though, and has made a BUNCH of friends.
DS's cousins his age all live in a different state. Some of them are within a 3 hour driving range. DS has and will make plenty of friends at church, school, and my mother's group.
It is similar to being an only, many of us don't miss what you don't have because you don't know any different. You fill your life with other things. For me, I have many close, close friends. I don't ever feel like I was slighted because of not having close blood relatives.
We also don't have any friends with kids - most of them have none or now they've started families in the last 2 years. So DS didn't get regular social interaction with peers until part time PreK and then starting school. He's totally normal and fine, promise :-)
Our son will only have one cousin who is eight years his senior.