so conflicted...

foreverapartofme

My mother watches DD Monday-Friday while I am at work, which I am so thankful for.  Having a family member around to help with LO is such a huge blessing!  I was thinking it would be a good idea to give my mom a break during the middle of the week and give her Wednesday off by finding a babysitter one day a week.  When I mentioned it to my mother, she clearly did not like the idea and feels my DD is fine with her. My DH also does not like the idea of leaving DD with someone we don't know, which I definitely share in his hesitation.   However, my best friend suggested someone she knew through her boss and actually told the person that I would be in touch with her soon.  That being said, I definitely need to call this person and let her know either way.  I feel bad because clearly my DH and mother are against the idea.  I just do not what to do and I am feeling conflicted over it.    

kalette

If your mom doesn't want a break, and your DH isn't comfortable with it, why are you even considering it??

foreverapartofme

My mom has really bad arthritis and that was why I was considering giving her an extra day to recover!  She always seems so tired by the time Friday comes around.  However, my DD is the first grandbaby so my mom adores having her around. My mom loves every minute of it, but I know she gets tired and it is not always easy for her to chase around DD.  I guess that's why I was considering the day off with another sitter.  I had only good intentions! I guess I will just let her stay with my mother since my mother insists she is fine. 

amarie923

I know it can be hard to leave your baby with someone new, but one day a week might be good - your daughter would see some new faces.  I think you had good intentions! I know my mom would never tell me she needed a break or want to give up any time watching my daughter, but you can do what you think is best! If your husband had a chance to meet the potential sitter, maybe he would feel more comfortable? 

takmjs

It sounds like good reasons for you to want your mom to have a day off. I would maybe tell your mom and your hubby that you want your daughter to get some socialization with other kids. It's one day a week, and I know as a working mom, I would sure appreciate a day off in the middle of the week when places are actually open! My MIL would never say she needs a day off either, but we know she needs a life, has a couple minor health issues, and wants to do other things, so we only use her 2 times a week. I agree with the last person: have your DH meet the babysitter to convince him.