My husband and I have had two foster children placed with us for 13 months now. We've had some concerns about the situation regarding their birth parents for awhile. We've voiced our concerns to their worker, the supervisor, and our previous licensing worker. The first two basically ignored us and our licensing worker expressed our concerns and was brushed off. Recently we've had a third child placed with us. After experiencing her worker and telling her some of the details from the two smaller childrens case, she also voiced that it shouldn't be that way, but said that unfortunately with that particular supervisor that it's not surprising.
We've also realized that the multiple workers that the two younger kids have had are not doing their job. They rarely come visit our home, ask us zero questions about the kids, and basically seem oblivious to the giant issue at hand regarding the birth parents.
The guardian ad litem has acknowledged similar concerns, but when she addressed them she was told there was nothing to be concerned about. She has basically given up, and just says "well I guess we'll see how they do after they go home..."
We really feel like there is very little care for the children, and mostly a rush to get them off their case load.
Earlier this week I sent an email to our new licensing worker expressing our concerns. I asked who we can go to about them. I also expressed that we aren't trying to effect the case plan or "keep" the kids, just trying to advocate for them. She has not responded to my email or to phone messages. I know they are all super busy, but there is a court hearing next week. We're feeling really conflicted about whether just to drop it and pray for the best or try and pursue it. We don't want to be seen as causing trouble and give them a reason to pull the kids out of our home, so I feel like we're on thin ice.
Advice?
~*Jenna*~
TTC since November 2009.
Currently licensed foster parents with the hope of adopting! Also pursuing pregnancy through IUI! First IUI scheduled 10/3/13
Currently loving our placements:
A 1/08
C 4/11
K 6/12
Re: Feeling Conflicted (long, sorry!)
I am A CpS worker and foster adoptive parent in MA. The system can be very frustrating at times !!
~*Jenna*~
TTC since November 2009.
Currently licensed foster parents with the hope of adopting! Also pursuing pregnancy through IUI! First IUI scheduled 10/3/13
Currently loving our placements:
A 1/08
C 4/11
K 6/12
TTC Since June 2012 BFP #1 08/01/12, D&C 09/07/12 9 weeks, Blighted Ovum BFP #2 01/01/13 m/c 5 weeks BFP #3 03/02/13 D&C 4/15/13 m/c 11 weeks, 07/19/13 Hysteroscopy for Scar Tissue, 9/12813 Hysteroscopy & Laparoscopy for Scar Tissue, Cleared to TTC October 2013.
BFP # 4 11/01/2013 EDD 07/12/14
Dear God, Since I couldn't hold my little one in my lap and tell him about you, could you hold him in your lap and tell him about me?