No Husband?!?!

Charlyse

Not married...not engaged I already have a 14 year old (single mother) so this is a role I am currently in. Hope to not get backlash about I am about to say but I feel all i can handle is one life change at a time. I am already having another child (total surprise...thought I was done with getting pregnant) so no need for a husband.

McKim88

I am not married either, I do have a boyfriend but I am about to be single lol he is a dog...so I am going to be a single mama! I'm actually kinda excited!

amhah09

Pssssh with the sinner talk! Love and be loved. Just because someone is married doesn't mean they have a better home for their baby.

deidremaria

McKim88 said:

I am not married either, I do have a boyfriend but I am about to be single lol he is a dog...so I am going to be a single mama! I'm actually kinda excited!

I'm glad you're excited. I'm also glad you see that you and your baby deserve better than a dog!

dashajean

I am not married either. Have known my boyfriend for seven years. We have been a couple for two years. Both previously married and divorced. It has been a roller coaster of emotions for both of us. We both have children from our divorces. I probably need some serious counseling to get through this and maintain my sanity! I am super happy about being blessed with this baby naturally at my age (41) but my boyfriend is freaking out every other day or so! It feels tough to handle. He says he will be by my side through it all but his actions concern me some also. He is super worried to tell his kids the news. Help!

NJPita22

I just got married august 3rd but when I got pregnant with DD I had only been dating her father for 5 months!!!! We didn't want to get married because of a baby so we waited. She was 18 months at our wedding and I'm glad we waited even though my grandma almost killed me!!

deidremaria

dashajean said:

I am not married either. Have known my boyfriend for seven years. We have been a couple for two years. Both previously married and divorced. It has been a roller coaster of emotions for both of us. We both have children from our divorces. I probably need some serious counseling to get through this and maintain my sanity! I am super happy about being blessed with this baby naturally at my age (41) but my boyfriend is freaking out every other day or so! It feels tough to handle. He says he will be by my side through it all but his actions concern me some also. He is super worried to tell his kids the news. Help!

I'm in a somewhat similar situation. My boyfriend is a lot older than me. He's got other kids. This baby is my first (probably only too) he's freaking out because he thinks he'll be too old to be a new dad and he's also in the process of telling his older kids. Good luck with it. I am sure it will go well for both of you

craftiemommie

partridgeb06 said:

No husband here. Wedding is on September 28, hoping I don't look like an oompa loompa in my dress! Lol.

That's my anniversary - congratulations! Even though I'm married I know lots of women who either got married just to have kids or got married because of kids. I have always thought you can't put that kind of pressure on yourself to make a marriage work. Its not the 50s and my girlfriends who are single mommas are the best mommas ever!

Sisimama10

Not married either. Baby number 2 on the way

kangstadt

Not married, but I'm currently with the guy who I want to marry someday . This was a total surprise for both of us but we both agreed that we don't want to have a shotgun wedding. He gave me a promise ring for my birthday (it was already his plan before we found out I'm expecting) and I agree with the other posters on here that have said being married does not necessarily mean you are better prepared or in a better situation than being unmarried. So glad there are so many other awesome unmarried/single expecting mamas on here! I don't feel so alone and ostracised now .

sking72

I'm also not married, my boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year and actually werent very serious. Our life plans were going to go in a different direction so, as I put it, we had an "expiration date". He also always said he didn't want kids or to get married and I agreed with the not wanting kids. But since we found out about our little surprise we are both so excited! My mindset changed instantly! I found this quote on Pinterest that I absolutely love "sometimes on your way to the dream you get lost and find another one" which holds so true to me because My life plans changed in an instant.

cfthoct292011

Im married but my sister wasnt married when she had my niece and i still love her more than anything. And my older sister thanks to the law may not be able to be married when she and my SIL decide to conceive so to each his own. My husband and i knew we wanted kids when we were dating in HS we just wanted to get married first. Which no one in either of our families has ever done so we broke the record lol

deidremaria

PS I love your name, I had a really close friend in high school with your screen name but we lost touch a long time ago.

Really? That's so crazy. I just combined my first and middle name lol

dashajean

I found a cool quote that I like to hold on too...not everyone who is married is happy and not everyone who is single is lonely! So true!

Rogue237

I get married in 3 weeks and we are due 4/19. Honestly we probably wouldn't be getting married if it weren't for our decision to have kids - not that we don't plan to spend our lives together, we do, but we didn't feel being married was necessary to live a life together. Once we decided to start trying we changed our minds on doing the paperwork aspect of it (we're not religious, so it's really more of a legality thing for us). To each their own I think - just find a way to be happy!!

Nijay714

Not married nor engaged, I've been dating the father off and on for 10 yrs, this is a total surprise.. This will be my second child. I think as long as you keep your head on straight and push to do better for yourself and child everything will be fine. I think we're all great/ will be great mothers..

mom2twin

Baby daddy left two weeks after I found out I was preggers with my twins. They are now four.
I was single up until last August & bf & I are not engaged, but living together. Wanted to have kids sooner rather than later as my twins will be almost five by time baby's here. Bf is awesome... Engagement & marriage will happen at some point with us.