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Late Term and Child Loss
Mrs Nice
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PAL Check In
Mrs Nice
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Welcome to Friday PAL Checkin! This CheckIn is for everyone who is parenting after a loss. If you have an older child or a rainbow baby or both you are welcome to share here.
I hope everyone is having a good week. If anyone has any suggestions for questions, please don't be shy!
Where are you in your PAL journey?
What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently?
QOTW: How does your parenting style differ from your SOs?
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
I hope everyone is having a good week. If anyone has any suggestions for questions, please don't be shy!
Where are you in your PAL journey?
What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently?
QOTW: How does your parenting style differ from your SOs?
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
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Re: PAL Check In
It's been almost 2 1/2 years since I held Ian, Zachary is 18mo, and we are TTC again.
What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently?
It's still a challenge being back at work. I work long hours Monday to Wednesday so I don't get to spend any time with Z on those days. I feel major guilt about it.
QOTW: How does your parenting style differ from your SOs?
I'm more relaxed about letting Z explore things. DH will say no to him for something and I think, why not? Just let him try! Also, I'm more patient with him when he has a melt down.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
My boys. They are my whole world.
Where are you in your PAL journey?
It's been almost 5 months since we lost Alice and Jacob recently turned 5 and will be starting kindergarten. There are so many changes and I struggle to not snap a J because I am having a rough day.
What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently?
Next Tues the 27th is 5 months since we lost Alice and it is also the day we have court to deal with my son's bio mom and her complete contempt of court. I am frustrated that she never seems to be held accountable for any of her actions or for what she did to J and I am sad and overwhelmed that is has been 5 months since Alice was here. I should have a newborn. I am also 12 weeks pregnant so that just adds to the emotional overload.
QOTW: How does your parenting style differ from your SOs?
I am way more lenient. DH used to be a psychologist at a super max prison and he often parents as though J is a prisoner, he needs to do what he's told when he's told to do it and no ifs ands or buts. He has been out for over 1.5 years so he is loosening up. He also grew up with a mother who was afraid to let him try anything so he struggles to be ok with J attempting new things. If we are out and about I will let J walk next to me and as long as it is safe and he is listening by staying next to me, I don't need to hold his hand. DH requires J to hold his or my hand at all times. We definitely have different styles.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
I woke up this morning and I was just angry. Nothing in particular but just annoyed and super irritable. I don't want to be angry and cranky all the time. I am hoping once August is done, especially after next Tuesday, things will start to feel better.