FFFC...

Enami

kiracashley said:

I'm trying to figure out how to not go back to work after baby and work from home even though I don't think we can afford that, but I also think my paycheck will solely go to child care and paying to get to and from work so it may not be worth going to work anyway

I found some great stuff on Pinterest about staying home on one income. When DS was little, we managed to live on around $1000/month, so I definitely think its doable.

maelic

I'm scared that our cat will feel neglected after the baby. We are crazy people, clearly, but we love our catbutt so very much. 

Dr Quarters

J&NL said:

Dr Quarters said:

J&NL said:

You want to hear about excessive? I'm staying at my parents house for almost 3 weeks while DH is at training. My mom and I absolutely do not get along so any time she is around I want to pull my hair out. The worst part is I can't even talk to DH the entire time. If I wasn't so scared to stay in our apartment alone (the crime rate is terrible and there has been a women raped at gunpoint in my apartment complex) then I would already be on my way home. 

Holy crap! Yeah, you win that. Talk about a stressful time. I would not stay alone there either. Is your husband back for good after training?

MyNameWasTaken

Not really FFFC-worthy, but I'm get so annoyed every time a woman blames her poor behavior on pregnancy hormones. I get it, the mood swings, they happen, and people irritate the piss out of you; I'm there, too. But acting like a raging bitch and playing the "omg, I'm soooooo pregnant and moody!" card is ridiculous. Self control; pregnancy doesn't excuse you from it.

Brought to you by someone ready to cunt punch a really annoying pregnant friend ranting on FB. Seriously, her pee stick is still wet, and the fits have already started.

sexyntexy

I think we need a lesson in the difference between UO and FFFC.

UO: I hate coffee

FFFC: I ordered my 6m old a vente latte at Starbucks.

kltoth

My confession is I seriously lack patience with others. If I am waiting in line at Walmart or something and people ahead of me take 10-15 mins to check out with 4-5 items, I am ready to get nasty. If they could hear my thoughts they would be so shocked and offended. I hope it's hormones because I don't want to believe I have gotten that bitchy.

Stasi

MyNameWasTaken said:

Not really FFFC-worthy, but I'm get so annoyed every time a woman blames her poor behavior on pregnancy hormones. I get it, the mood swings, they happen, and people irritate the piss out of you; I'm there, too. But acting like a raging bitch and playing the "omg, I'm soooooo pregnant and moody!" card is ridiculous. Self control; pregnancy doesn't excuse you from it.

Brought to you by someone ready to cunt punch a really annoying pregnant friend ranting on FB. Seriously, her pee stick is still wet, and the fits have already started.

I keep forgetting you are here now I got so confused for a sec

MyNameWasTaken

Stasi said:

MyNameWasTaken said:

Not really FFFC-worthy, but I'm get so annoyed every time a woman blames her poor behavior on pregnancy hormones. I get it, the mood swings, they happen, and people irritate the piss out of you; I'm there, too. But acting like a raging bitch and playing the "omg, I'm soooooo pregnant and moody!" card is ridiculous. Self control; pregnancy doesn't excuse you from it.

Brought to you by someone ready to cunt punch a really annoying pregnant friend ranting on FB. Seriously, her pee stick is still wet, and the fits have already started.

I keep forgetting you are here now I got so confused for a sec

I admit to doing the same when I see you post, too. I'm all like, "wait, am I on the right board?" lol

MyLuckyCharms

strawberrytree said:

I hate all pop and carbonated beverages. I also drink maybe a dozen cups of coffee a year. I don't understand people who have to add artificial flavouring in order to enjoy water. I think water is amazing and drink about 10 glasses every day, even when I'm not pregnant or breastfeeding. I carry a bottle of water around like some people tote a Starbucks mug. 

wtf kind of confession is this?! 

JNova78

I have a two drink minimum rule prior to seeing my mother in law (we live several states away, her and my husband are not really close, and we only see her a few times a year).  I have no idea how I will get through the Christmas visit sans alcohol.

MyLuckyCharms

jsoubel said:

I'm not certain I can hack another 8 months on this board.  The bickering and flaming is pointless.  I have enough controversy in my day-to-day.  Although, if I stick with it, I know that it gets better after we all have our babies.

lol

generally people get flamed when they say or do idiotic things and /or are being a douchebag.

A lot of the crazy will be weeded out at some point for sure, but you'll still get flamed if you say flame worthy things, that's just how it works. Also if you want to avoid "that sort of thing" just avoid the UO and FFFC threads. 

steph1977

Andrewsgal said:

jsoubel said:

I'm not certain I can hack another 8 months on this board.  The bickering and flaming is pointless.  I have enough controversy in my day-to-day.  Although, if I stick with it, I know that it gets better after we all have our babies.

Post like this make me laugh. You must be new. This board has been tame so far. Sure keep believing that when the babies come and not only are we hormonal but sleep deprived things will get better.
I've heard this before. Aren't we all fairly "new"? How could we not be?

Andrewsgal said:

jsoubel said:

I'm not certain I can hack another 8 months on this board.  The bickering and flaming is pointless.  I have enough controversy in my day-to-day.  Although, if I stick with it, I know that it gets better after we all have our babies.

Post like this make me laugh. You must be new. This board has been tame so far. Sure keep believing that when the babies come and not only are we hormonal but sleep deprived things will get better.

christinaramirez08

I had GD with my son and am pretty sure I'm going to have it this time too. I think I have pre-diabetes when I'm not pregnant. But until I am diagnosed, my ass is eating whatever I want!!

steph1977

steph1977 said:

Andrewsgal said:

jsoubel said:

I'm not certain I can hack another 8 months on this board.  The bickering and flaming is pointless.  I have enough controversy in my day-to-day.  Although, if I stick with it, I know that it gets better after we all have our babies.

Post like this make me laugh. You must be new. This board has been tame so far. Sure keep believing that when the babies come and not only are we hormonal but sleep deprived things will get better.

I've heard this before. Aren't we all fairly "new"? How could we not be?

dalzie86

I have no patience for anyone and that is whether I see them get a text or on FB. I'm an extremely patient person so this is so out of character for me. I'm really upset this week bc DH went camping and that was all planned for awhile and i was fine with it, but I am now so angry he's not here. I have spent an awful lot of time with my mom and she said that everything I say or do is always sounding like a complaint. Honestly, yes I'm complaining bc I'm not feeling top notch. I am incredibly happy about my little peanut growing but yes the hormones are getting the best if me this week. She just laughed at me?!?

steph1977

LalaMama81 said:

steph1977 said:

steph1977 said:

Andrewsgal said:

jsoubel said:

I'm not certain I can hack another 8 months on this board.  The bickering and flaming is pointless.  I have enough controversy in my day-to-day.  Although, if I stick with it, I know that it gets better after we all have our babies.

Post like this make me laugh. You must be new. This board has been tame so far. Sure keep believing that when the babies come and not only are we hormonal but sleep deprived things will get better.

I've heard this before. Aren't we all fairly "new"? How could we not be?

Andrewsgal said:

jsoubel said:

I'm not certain I can hack another 8 months on this board.  The bickering and flaming is pointless.  I have enough controversy in my day-to-day.  Although, if I stick with it, I know that it gets better after we all have our babies.

Post like this make me laugh. You must be new. This board has been tame so far. Sure keep believing that when the babies come and not only are we hormonal but sleep deprived things will get better.

Aren't we all fairly new here?? How could we not be??

New to April 14? Sure. New to the bump/nest/knot? Nope. Many of us post regularly on other boards, have older kids, used the knot for wedding planning, etc. I've been around off and on since planning my wedding and my 9th anniversary was yesterday.

Gotcha - thx

Laurelyn2012

I judge people who love buffets.  I think buffets are so repulsive, next time you eat at one just think someone could have so easily sneezed or coughed on that food or picked something up with their fingers and put it back because they decided they didn't like it.  Also at some places, not all, the amount of time that food has been sitting out there.  *I'm gagging just thinking about it*

hsabyan

sweetpeace13 said:

i had two bagels and chocolate for breakfast.

 I am 5 weeks 2 days and besides annoyance with everyone and everything and some fatigue I have no symptoms. Some people say to be grateful but my crazy brain tells me its because I am not really pregnant and am having a hysterical pregnancy like on GLEE and that when we get our ultrasound we are going to see nothing and I am going to spend the next month crying and drinking. 

I am in your exact same shoes. Down to the day. I love people sounding as paranoid and scared as me, it's comforting.

katieharpiceland

I've been completely unsympathetic and annoyed at DH for feeling "a little warm and kinda sick" the past days. I've been going to work, cooking, etc. his work hasn't started yet. I feel like a total b**** though.

amhah09

steph1977 said:

steph1977 said:

Andrewsgal said:

jsoubel said:

I'm not certain I can hack another 8 months on this board.  The bickering and flaming is pointless.  I have enough controversy in my day-to-day.  Although, if I stick with it, I know that it gets better after we all have our babies.

Post like this make me laugh. You must be new. This board has been tame so far. Sure keep believing that when the babies come and not only are we hormonal but sleep deprived things will get better.

I've heard this before. Aren't we all fairly "new"? How could we not be?

........................
New to the bump. There are plenty of members who have been here for years with other pregnancies or from the knot. Personally I've been here off and on since 2009 (different SN) and it's easy to spot the new members (ie the ones that get offended over snark and flames and start calling people mean)

CalinAZ

Mine is that I should be teaching right now. Instead I'm enjoying an extended weekend in San Diego while DH is on a work trip. It's only the third week of school, and next week is Labor Day, so I feel really guilty abandoning my kiddos. But, some time you just have to escape 110 degree days and enjoy some time by the ocean

Mrs.Kohalic17

I'm throwing a bridal shower today for one of my closest friends who's wedding I'm also in next month. I almost regret doing it because only like 10ppl are showing up and now I'm exhausted and hormonal and I just don't even wanna go. It has nothing to do with my friend or anything like that, I just don't wanna go out. Can I just stay in bed??  I-)

Scarlett&Gatsby

I've got two more.

1. I've legit prayed that this isn't twins. Please, pleeeeaaaseeee don't let it be twins.

2. All I want is a bourbon on the rocks.

3. Now thanks to ^ that confession and my previous one about having wine during my last two pregnancies, I'm paranoid someone's going to think I'm an alcoholic.

Teresa1896

I think old people have no business being on Facebook. They don't get it, they post silly things, and the older people on my FB "like" every.single.update or picture that I post, and it drives me bonkers.

Andrewsgal

amhah09 said:

jsoubel said:

I'm not certain I can hack another 8 months on this board.  The bickering and flaming is pointless.  I have enough controversy in my day-to-day.  Although, if I stick with it, I know that it gets better after we all have our babies.

Post like this make me laugh. You must be new. This board has been tame so far. Sure keep believing that when the babies come and not only are we hormonal but sleep deprived things will get better.

I've heard this before. Aren't we all fairly "new"? How could we not be?

........................ New to the bump. There are plenty of members who have been here for years with other pregnancies or from the knot. Personally I've been here off and on since 2009 (different SN) and it's easy to spot the new members (ie the ones that get offended over snark and flames and start calling people mean)

Yep many of us are not new to the bump. I have been on the knot/nest/bump for 8 years.

misskristina21

MIL ended up taking the day off work instead of just the morning, so after her appointment, she came and picked DD up.

The confession part? Not 10 minutes after they left, my butt got back into bed. That's where I plan to stay until DH gets off work.

MyLuckyCharms

ebie79 said:

thomas930 said:

kiracashley said:

I'm trying to figure out how to not go back to work after baby and work from home even though I don't think we can afford that, but I also think my paycheck will solely go to child care and paying to get to and from work so it may not be worth going to work anyway

That's how we came to the decision for me to stay home, between childcare and the gas to get to and from work/drop off pick up, there wouldn't be much (if anything) left over. 

For everyone, it is a personal choice. However, don't forget about your retirement funds continuing to grow with contributions/employer matching and staying relevant in the work force. But this all depnds on what field you're in and where you're at with your career.

yes exactly. After this one is born and I go back to work we will probably be paying all of my salary in daycare for a while. But if I just stop working and drop out of the workforce that leaves me in a poor position several years down the line, I forget everything and become a much less attractive candidate to potential employers.

For us, daycare is a temporary cost that eventually we won't have any more: in five years time I will be making x more than I am now and can keep working up the corporate ladder.

sandylou

jsoubel said:

I'm not certain I can hack another 8 months on this board.  The bickering and flaming is pointless.  I have enough controversy in my day-to-day.  Although, if I stick with it, I know that it gets better after we all have our babies.

sandylou

sandylou said:

jsoubel said:

I'm not certain I can hack another 8 months on this board.  The bickering and flaming is pointless.  I have enough controversy in my day-to-day.  Although, if I stick with it, I know that it gets better after we all have our babies.

Whoopsies...this is me except I don't care about the bickering. I roll my eyes at the "can't we just support each other?" Answer: NO

Also if coffee, sushi, soft cheeses and lunch meat are FW I am going up in a great big giant ball when y'all hear I drink alcohol after 1st tri.

Mooooderation...in a big loud singing Oprah voice

JamiesWife2010

roo1582 said:

I am terrified of what this baby is going to be like.  My DD was such an awesome, easy going baby.  She slept through the night starting at 1 month, was never collicky, ate great, rarely fussy.  There's no way I can be that lucky twice.  I'm thinking this one is going to give me hell to make up for it.

This makes me nervous, too. DS has been super easy. I keep thinking "what if this baby is a satan spawn?" :P

JamiesWife2010

My confession: I'm hoping for another super quick labor/delivery, so that family doesn't have time to make it in from out of town. I handled labor & delivery just fine without everyone all in my business, I'd like to keep it that way.

ksulli

sandylou said:

Also if coffee, sushi, soft cheeses and lunch meat are FW I am going up in a great big giant ball when y'all hear I drink alcohol after 1st tri.

Mooooderation...in a big loud singing Oprah voice

My OB told me yesterday to go ahead and have a glass of wine. Not three, and probably not every day, but a glass- especially with dinner- is fine. We're in the States, but she reads the studies out of Europe too, since nobody here will touch that study with a 10ft pole.

. I'll probably wait until 2nd tri, but I'll have some too.

thomas930

MyLuckyCharms said:

ebie79 said:

thomas930 said:

kiracashley said:

I'm trying to figure out how to not go back to work after baby and work from home even though I don't think we can afford that, but I also think my paycheck will solely go to child care and paying to get to and from work so it may not be worth going to work anyway

That's how we came to the decision for me to stay home, between childcare and the gas to get to and from work/drop off pick up, there wouldn't be much (if anything) left over. 

For everyone, it is a personal choice. However, don't forget about your retirement funds continuing to grow with contributions/employer matching and staying relevant in the work force. But this all depnds on what field you're in and where you're at with your career.

yes exactly. After this one is born and I go back to work we will probably be paying all of my salary in daycare for a while. But if I just stop working and drop out of the workforce that leaves me in a poor position several years down the line, I forget everything and become a much less attractive candidate to potential employers.

For us, daycare is a temporary cost that eventually we won't have any more: in five years time I will be making x more than I am now and can keep working up the corporate ladder.

I was 21 when my first came I was still in school and never had a chance to start a career, so I see your side but I didn't have to worry about ruining my work history. 

KNSATX

I really want to share my super exciting news with my girlfriends...but I'm worried that two in particular are going to make it all all about them because they want babies and aren't at a place in their lives where it makes sense. One is 35, divorced, and dating a guy who already has three kids. The other is 38, single, and may have dated everyone in Seattle with a match.com profile. I love them dearly but I just want them to be happy for me. I've waited a long time for this!

J&NL

Dr Quarters said:Holy crap! Yeah, you win that. Talk about a stressful time. I would not stay alone there either. Is your husband back for good after training?

Yes, for a while! I think this is the last bit of training they have. 

Stasi

ColleenSwerb said:

I was in glorious Italy at 14-15w last time. You bet your ass I enjoyed some amazing wine at dinner. No way everyone in Europe, where moderation is not a lost concept, gives up alcohol during pregnancy. Here, they feel like they have to say "no alcohol" because of the idiots out there that don't understand moderation. Personally, I'm not even against it in the first tri. There are women out there who have no idea they are pregnant for WEEKS, and continue drinking away and sometimes even doing drugs, and they birth perfectly happy healthy kids. My occasional glass of wine isn't going to harm anything.

I heard it said that they tell American women absolutely no alcohol because we have no concept of moderation. They have to tell everybody to abstain because some digbat will be like, "I thought an entire bottle of wine wasn't THAT bad, I usually have three a day!"

AcaAwkward

ColleenSwerb said:

I was in glorious Italy at 14-15w last time. You bet your ass I enjoyed some amazing wine at dinner. No way everyone in Europe, where moderation is not a lost concept, gives up alcohol during pregnancy.

Here, they feel like they have to say "no alcohol" because of the idiots out there that don't understand moderation. Personally, I'm not even against it in the first tri. There are women out there who have no idea they are pregnant for WEEKS, and continue drinking away and sometimes even doing drugs, and they birth perfectly happy healthy kids. My occasional glass of wine isn't going to harm anything.

Mmmmmm Italy would be a FANTASTIC place to travel while pregnant - meat and cheese platter with every meal? Yes please!

I generally think Americans are just too uptight and/or stupid for our own good. As you said, a small glass of wine isn't going to hurt you but we better not advertise that or we'll have whatshername over there doing tequila shots in her first trimester. And lets just bring the ax down on deli meat and sushi, too, in case someone is too moronic to realize that maybe the California rolls nearing their expiration date at Safeway aren't the freshest.

Common sense and moderation, people...they are your friends.

AcaAwkward

I do not care how amazing and sexy and wonderful your husband is, if you cannot even play the Celebrity Freebie Game for fun, you receive the eye roll of the century from me.

J&NL

Mmmm.. wine. 

Serenla

AcaAwkward said:

I do not care how amazing and sexy and wonderful your husband is, if you cannot even play the Celebrity Freebie Game for fun, you receive the eye roll of the century from me.

Seconded @acawkward you'd have to be pretty fucking uptight I'd think, to have an issue with it.