Out of curiosity

IceHide61313

Last night DH asked why I want to have a baby. I didn't have an answer at that moment but I asked him why he wants to have one as well. His response was "to pass on my name."

Why did you or do you and your SO want to have a baby?

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TikiTurtle

I guess it can be hard to explain the maternal desire, but I suppose the closest I can come is to say I want to be able to hold a little person that combines the best of me and husband. I want to see what they look like, who they grow up to be, and get to share the world with them. There's more to it then that of course, but I guess that's the main reason.

bumpuser794640

We want to have a baby because we want to experience being parents.  Yes, that sounds selfish, but I don't really think there is an unselfish reason to have a child (especially a first child, where there is no sibling stuff in the mix).

SmileyJay

I've never understood the "pass on the name" reason. We talk about children practically every day and that has never come up once. It seems so short sighted (what if your child doesn't have children?) and  narcissistic (Out of 7 billion people on earth, what is it specifically about your name or genes that deserves to live on?). There must be something I am missing with this one.

Our reasons for wanting children is because it just fits with our personalities. We are both home bodies who love being active, playing board games, and exploring the world. Sharing our lives with children will be a joy for us. We have never liked going out late, drinking, or anything like that. Right now our favorite thing to do is have our niece and two nephews over for the weekend to go hiking, play in the pool, and just be with them. Travel and personal interests do not cease to exist when you have kids, I just see children as enriching our lives. It's not like that for everyone though and most people I know seem to feel burdened by the responsibility.

We are both just genuinely interested in investing our time, money, and resources into the next generation. We love children, we love family, and we have such a warm, loving home to share with children. I cry happy tears practically every time I watch a pregnancy/birth show. Also, I think I married the most amazing man on earth and I can't really imagine not creating someone else with him and seeing him be a father. He so deeply wants it, we are just waiting to be in a better place financially for now. We also wish to one day adopt and definitely be foster parents after we have experience from raising children.

Everyones reasons are different. There are just as many good reasons to not have kids at all. To each his own

Erica314

I have always known I want to be a mother, and as terrible as it sounds, I've had baby fever since around age 16 when my best friend got pregnant!!  I want a child because I feel like I'm wasting my life not being a mother.  I see the bonds that many of my friends have with their children and I become soooo jealous, I see my niece (2) who is sooo smart and beautiful and I just crave that for myself.  My future children's only cousins are 2 and due in November, and I want them to be as close in age as possible, so DF and I have decided that the time is right for us to start ttc now

Also, it doesn't hurt that I have the most amazing DF and he seeing him interact with other's children just makes me want one even more!  He's so great with kids, and he wants one more than I do sometimes!! 

amberhoothoot

I wanted a baby because I felt I had accomplished a lot of my goals for myself already. Knew I wouldn't worry about "missing out" on anything. DH wanted a baby because he has an awesome family and he really wanted us to have a family as well. We both knew it would bring us happiness to devote nearly all of ourselves to a whole new person who was a part of both of us. It was a lot of little reasons combined. Now we want a second because we know how much joy #1 brings us everyday.

AngeliaG8

My husband and I actually had this conversation last night. I just couldn't put my feelings in to words. It just feels so right. There are so many reasons that I couldn't begin to name them all!!

IceHide61313

I know what you mean @AngeliaG8 .... I think the simplest way to describe it is just that 'I want one.' There are so many good reasons/intentions for having/wanting a baby, but I think it is just easier to name reasons why a person wouldn't want one, if anyone gets what I'm saying. I mean really, why would somebody want something that requires all of your time and energy and your money? You have to make tons of sacrifices for it- the list goes on. But regardless, we still want them cause they are just so cute, right?

@TikiTurtle I think you're reasoning probably comes the closest to what we all feel!

nixie321

I came around to my reasoning during an earlier pregnancy that resulted in a loss.  However, that earlier pregnancy was unexpected and I really did a lot of soul searching as to whether I wanted a child and then why I wanted a child.  I am currently 10 weeks pregnant which was planned, btw.

I found that I wanted a child because even though life is really rough, I also believe that life can be extraordinary and I want to be able to start a child's  life with a strong start that I have learned for myself over time.  I would love to be a mother and nurture the child as best I could with the partner that I have.  I have a belief that while not everything turns out the way it's planned, we would provide a loving, smart and compassionate home and I believe this is where the best seeds are planted.  I understand that flexibility is a must and I will be learning right along with the child and I would love a chance to more understand & embrace life in the ways of child rearing and being the best mom I could be.  My mother was a good mother but I have learned that there are so many more things to start a child off with and I want to be able to provide that anchor and example so that my very own child has the best start we can provide.