How do you remember your Angel baby?

ksgsmu

So obviously I never "forget" my angel baby... I think about him/her every day.  I am trying to think of something to do in my life in remembrance of my loss. 
I don't want a tattoo... What have some of you ladies done?  Jewelry piece? Plant a tree? etc...  I don't know if my Dh will understand my need for doing this but I feel like maybe it will help my healing process.  thoughts? suggestions?

MsAmandaPants

I planted a tree. Many other people do a special piece of jewelry. It is a very personal decision and I think you just have to find something that feel right for you.

Poppy715

I got a necklace with charms. Addison's birthstone, A pendant that has an A, an angel wing and a heart. I do plan on getting a tattoo of her footprints.

Mostly, I just talk about her. Basically to anyone who will listen. I don't let her memory of existing to bring me sadness. I'm sad I lost her of course but happy she existed in the first place. I've also got many pictures that are going to go into a scrapbook as well as a shadow box that I have yet to finish. There are special items from the hospital that will go inside. A tiny crocheted blanked she was wrapped in, the dove wreath that hung on my door, her foot prints and a picture and possibly her memorial certificate.

Many people plant a tree or flower, do balloon/ butterfly releases, write to their lost LO, raise money in their name and so on.

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I would like a piece of jewelry. When we are done having children, I want to get a mother's ring with their birthstones. I'm considering also getting the stones for my angel children. We'll see if DH goes along with it, though. As of now only one is an expensive gemstone.

Etsy has some nice memorial jewelry. 

I also want to make donations to a cause in their memory. If I am honest I haven't yet because we are really pinching pennies lately. But when things aren't so tight I am going to do a yearly donation. I just haven't decided where yet (or maybe I will do a different one each year).

mara005

I have a necklace, I like having something to touch when I'm thinking of or missing my baby.

SandSunBliss

I have a ring with two rubies in it (for my two July sweeties).  I also had a Carly Marie picture made which is my desktop at work (https://theseashoreofremembrance.blogspot.com.au/). I also have two necklaces that were gifts that I wear pretty often. 

My favorite thing is our memory box with all of the ultrasound pictures, pictures we took related to the pregnancy, cards that people sent us, my hospital bracelets, letters DH and I wrote to the babies during our grief counseling, etc.  Anything that reminds me of our sweet ones and gives me a warm fuzzy goes in the box.  It also holds a book that I read to angels sometimes when I am really missing them.  It is the Velveteen Rabbit (which some of you may remember from the July siggy challenge). It was the first and last Christmas gift my Dad gave to them.

ETA: My DH understands why I need these things, but he only really needs the memory box.  I've caught him in it a couple of times...  I think he will enjoy the sunset picture once we get it on canvas, but obviously the jewelry is not for him

Also ETA: PIP (I couldn't resist) (I've shared this before here, so please excuse me if you have seen it!)

 

AllieSchur

My dear friend, who has had multiple losses, sent me this about a month after my loss. It is a key chain and at first I didn't want it to get scratched so I didn't attach it to my ring, but I changed my mind, and now the scratches and wear remind me of how far I have come. My grief isn't so shiny anymore, and I carry it everywhere I go.  I adore it. I would at some point like to get some jewelry also.

princezjk

I have a necklace that says "Izzie - Always in my heart" and a mother/daughter bracelet.  Izzie was buried with a matching one.  Like Poppy715, I plan to get a tattoo with either her footprints or hand print.  I have a memory box with all of the ultrasound photos and photos of her from the hospital, I haven't decided if I am going to do anything else with them yet.  I also have a lock of her hair.  I am thinking about getting a locket to put that in.  I also have a Molly Bear and a stuffed hippo that Izzie's Aunt had made for her.  @SandSunBliss - I love your sunset photo and think it will make a gorgeous canvas.  

Just today I was at the store and they asked if I wanted to donate $1 to Juvenile Diabetes research.  I typically do the $1 donation at checkout, so I did.  Then they hand me a little cutout and tell me to write down a name.  Without even thinking I wrote Izzie.  I know this is something I will always do.  She was the best thing to ever happen to me and anything I do that is remotely good is for her.    

toomanycats1

I planted a rose bush for my first angel.  My second is more recent, so I haven't done anything special for that one yet.  I'll plant something next year when it feels right

blackbird818

I have a ring I wear on my pinky from James Avery that isn't "technically" a memorial ring, but it is to me. It has a heart with a flower on either side. I told DH I want to get one a couple months ago, but I don't think he understood why I needed it. I originally wanted him to go with me to pick one out, but finally did it on my own b/c he wasn't outwardly supportive of it plus it was something I needed for my heart.

It's a very personal choice, and you should find something that has special meaning to you.

shandorfml2

I do lots of things. We did a balloon release at her funeral, and plan to do it again at her birthday. I have a tattoo (butterfly and stars), I've ordered a Molly bear (weighted teddy bears), we have a little memorial area in our house with candles and things that remind us of her. I ordered a memorial necklace for me and a keychain for H. I think/talk about her every day, I did a cross stitch for her, I'm participating in a Remembrance Walk in October through my support group. I want to plant a tree, or a rose bush one day when we own a house.

shandorfml2

princezjk said:

I have a necklace that says "Izzie - Always in my heart" and a mother/daughter bracelet.  Izzie was buried with a matching one.  Like Poppy715, I plan to get a tattoo with either her footprints or hand print.  I have a memory box with all of the ultrasound photos and photos of her from the hospital, I haven't decided if I am going to do anything else with them yet.  I also have a lock of her hair.  I am thinking about getting a locket to put that in.  I also have a Molly Bear and a stuffed hippo that Izzie's Aunt had made for her.  @SandSunBliss - I love your sunset photo and think it will make a gorgeous canvas.  

Just today I was at the store and they asked if I wanted to donate $1 to Juvenile Diabetes research.  I typically do the $1 donation at checkout, so I did.  Then they hand me a little cutout and tell me to write down a name.  Without even thinking I wrote Izzie.  I know this is something I will always do.  She was the best thing to ever happen to me and anything I do that is remotely good is for her.    

Love the bracelet idea, wish I had thought of that! I also donate to the March of Dimes. I have a sunset photo, and two butterflies by Carlymarie. If you had an early loss you can just get hearts or "angel baby" instead of a name. I just participated in Carlymarie's project heal, and made a prayer flag for Aug. 19th day of hope. That was really nice to spend time thinking of her and making something.

MrsWallick

I love these ideas! I was thinking of a tattoo but OP said no to tattoos so I'm no help, sorry. I thought the bench was very unique and not an idea I have heard before. But they're all great ways to remember your angel baby.

ksyknelvr73

I have a willow tree figurine that is an angel for my first loss that a dear friend sent to me. I don't have anything for the 2 recent losses...but I am pondering getting a tattoo. I haven't figured out exactly what, something small but obviously meaningful.

MyFirstRaspberry

I wear a pair of dove earrings when I am thinking of my lost LO or want to feel my LO near.

desiwomack

We framed the ultrasound pics.  

ky29

I got a necklace, it's 2 small hearts inside one heart that states "I'll carry your hearts in my heart forever". I love it.

LesliW

We have a beautiful lavender rose bush. We have angel figurine in the middle of it...

ksgsmu

wow thank you so much for sharing ladies.  Those are all beautiful ideas and I had tears streaming down my face when I read them all.  The love for your angel babies just poured through.  I plan on bringing the idea up to DH this weekend and seeing if he wants to do something together or if it is something I will do on my own.

DCWJes

I have a necklace. My friend bought it for me a few days after my 2nd loss. She happened to be there when I found out.

We plan on planting a rosebush in their honor, probably won't be until we get a house though.

We also have a pink bear dressed like an angel for the first loss. And dh painted an angel baby for our second.

Allyvaughan86

I had an early loss but I have a little box that I put our positive pregnancy tests in along with a couple cards we got and a little angel pendant a coworker gave me. I also have a necklace that hubby got me with 3 hearts! I wear it all the time!