Are you done?

sweetann1

As my little one is getting older I feel the twinge for a baby again. But the issue is he was supposed to be my baby! He was my second and has been a handful. I'm really torn right now because having a third for us would be a major lifestyle change. I couldn't work bc childcare would be costly for three. And I don't do very well not working (mentally). I do like getting out of the house. And money would be tight, might have to sell our house, and cut my oldest activities out? I just get very upset when some friends of mine are having their 3rd. Because it seems so sad I won't be able to experience that again. But I am scared of being pg again bc I have horrible preg, labors and depression all associated with it. But it only last 9 months! Any advice? 

Oasismomma

Do you have to make the decision right away? You have a lot of fctors to consider, but some of those may change with time. We've decided that if we have a third, we will space them out a bit more than our first 2, who will be 25+ months apart. DS might even be in kindergarten or older before we have a hypothetical third child, which means we wouldn't have two kids in day care at once if I were working.

Also, every pregnancy, labor, and postpartum period is different.

jesselayne8

For us having a 3rd child wouldn't change the day to day. I stay at home so daycare isn't an issue. We have 4 bedrooms so our house is big enough. We plan waiting a little longer this time (1&2 are 17 months apart).

-T-

I feel a twinge of jealousy when I hear one of my friends is expecting. I don't know if that will ever completely go away. We are definitely planning on waiting about a year or so before we would TTC. I would like to have several years between my first 2, though that was not my original plan. I am young so I do have age on my side. If you have the option of waiting a couple years until your 2 kids are in school so daycare is cheaper, I see that as being an option. That way you don't rule a 3rd out right away, just not right now.

Smgrochowski

I'm glad to hear I'm not alone. Two is what we can afford and what I can handle... Sometimes it seems like too much to handle! A third is not a logical option, and 99% of the time I understand. But there is that 1% that would like the excitement of expecting and the snuggles of a newborn.

Leap08

What does your husband think? Can you take some time to think about it? It's a big decision.

I'm done. I had two easy pregnancies and have two beautiful girls. My husband and I aren't young parents, and I kind of feel like trying for a 3rd might be pressing our luck. I'm also not comfortable with the type of lifestyle changes we would have to make to have a 3rd child. Some good friends of ours just had a baby last week. I look at her and think how sweet she looks and I kind of miss the newborn snuggly stage. And then I think about the sleepless nights and breastfeeding every 2 hours. I think about how much easier life is now and how we've fallen into a really good rhythm, and I'm glad the newborn days are behind us.

TonyaCody06

Adding the 3rd was easy as far as parenting goes. You already know how to juggle more than one and recognize who really needs the immediate help. I can't help you with the financial part. I ended up pulling my 3 out of daycare due to cost after an unsuccessful job search. Being a SAHM was not my plan and it is HARD work.