My parents.....

bflygurl

Anyone having trouble with their parents & dealing with pregnancy?

My parents are very traditional Christians.

I'm 37....soon to be 38. And with a fail in contraception....am expecting in February. I'm so so über happy to be having a baby boy....bc as of the last couple of years...i had resigned to the notion of being older & never having my own kids...which was something I've always wanted. My own family.

Unfortunately, since my BF & I are not married & apparent that we were having premarital sex...sigh......my Mom & older Sister are taking this pregnancy poorly. My mother suggested we run out & get married (which I disagree with) & my older sister was basically downright ugly, hurtful & harsh. My younger sister is all smiles & supportive which helps, but once Mom & older sister gang up....it's hard to break thru....

It's been 2 weeks since I told them the news.....have been calling my parents several times a week with no response. And haven't really attempted to contact my older sister bc of how rude she was to me.

I've started to announce to the rest of my family bc I'm tired of holding back my enthusiasm and joy bc of their feelings. I'm happy & feel very blessed to have this opportunity. Why should I be feeling guilty bc it wasn't by perfect design or perfect by their standards?

My BF has been excited from the get go....we are talking about marriage....and he's been very supportive. What makes things worse is that his parents have been wonderful. Sigh. I wished my parents were more like his.....

Any advice? Anyone else having similar issues?

MooOink

You're 38 years old. As much as you want your parents approval, who cares. They have no right to treat you this way, I say enjoy your pregnancy, do what YOU want and let then come around if they want to be a part of your life. Did they really think an almost 40 year old never had sex? It seems pretty self riteous of them.

mrebecca

Ditch the 'rents.

Disneygeek77

Ignore them.  Be happy and ignore them.  Stop trying to call your mom and don't call your sister.  That is what they want. 

LuckyDad

Ok, i will bite.

Why no marriage? Five points for "so we never get divorced" . Ten for "its a bigger commitment than creating a person.

bflygurl

Thank you

I'm a family-oriented person & so I want to involve my family in this new experience but at the same time.....I have to do what is right for my new family. This is my baby & he's gonna be brilliant!

Hopefully they will come around, but if not.....the love will be coming in plenty, no?

Thanks again

MelissaRae1525

Get married when you want to, not because your parents are forcing it on you! Once the baby comes they will want to see him I'm sure they will want to see him, but I wouldn't let them without an apology. Honestly, they sound like they are going to give you lots of trouble if you don't raise your son how they want, so maybe it's better if they aren't super involved. Anyway, congrats and good luck!

missyishere

You rally rally like ellipses.

mrebecca

missyishere said:

You rally rally like ellipses.

I know this one lady.......she literally types.....like this....
It is so.......freaking........annoying......
Dramatic pauses like that don't work so well in emails.

littlestjerry

Fuck em. Easier said than done, of course, but they're wrong, not you. Congrats, by the way!