Likelihood of miscarriage?

J&NL

jap618 said:

@playingonadream I think you asked your question appropriately and tactfully.  I'm sorry you are so upset.  I know it's hard for a lot of us PgAL because there are mean, rude and malicious people out there (and even on here) so it can be hard for me to figure out the tone (as it is for you guys with me) when I don't know any of your or your intent. 

My original nurse told me that as many as 50% of first time pregnancies end in miscarriage (I have no idea where she got that statistic) and then 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in a loss.  Having 1 loss does not have any bearing on whether you will have a 2nd loss or not but having 2 consecutive can increase your chances of having a 3rd. 

I would highly recommend spending some time on google & on reputable websites and do your own research, you will find lots of stories and some will be heart breaking and others will be happy endings (as you will see if you venture over to PgAL also!!).   (((hugs))) I think this can all be ok.

 

And for @tiffy81 @nursewinnie and @bthlgh <<these are also girls that "loved" the post yesterday.  You guys will not be missed by me & please do not let the door hit you on the way out.  I cannot even begin to accept how inconsiderate and rude you ladies have been to myself and the rest of the PgAL community.  We do have a board and quite a few of us hang out there, along with here.  Even on your little "utopia" FTP board ladies would inevitably miscarry and you would be saying good bye to at least a portion of those ladies.  It happens; it's life; deal with it or get out.   

THIS!! How are you even grouping the women that have been posting their "goodbyes" and 'fairwells" with the PGaL ladies? Some of those women are FTM's so regardless if you did have another board, I can guarantee there will still be goodbyes. We are in the first trimester right now. M/C happen all the time, regardless if us "PGaL" ladies are on the board or not. Geez, I can't believe the pure ignorance I've seen the past two days. I honestly pray none of y'all that are saying these insensitive things ever have to suffer a loss and if you have, shame on you for being such a twat. 

ekmebm

And for the record : what happened to someone else with their body and their pregnancy doesn't mean it will happen to you. Miscarriages aren't contagious via the interwebs. Bad things happen to good people but pretending they don't doesn't stop them from happening. You are all mother's now....you all love the baby you are carrying and as long as their heart is beating you will worry. You will worry about your pregnancy, and SIDS and choking and electrical outlets and swimming pools and guns at friends houses and cars and bikes and alcohol and kidnappers and lightning and plane crashes. The worry will never, ever stop. But asking the PgAL girls not to post here isn't going to stop you from worrying and it won't stop life from happening. There is a quote that "the decision to have a baby means you will spend the rest of your life with your heart on your sleeve" and it's accurate. You sensitive types better thicken up your skin before watching the news post partum....I fear you'll never survive it.

poppylove14

Some of these posts are honestly so rude. I wish the feeling of support was extended to all members of the board. I am so sorry to what happened yesterday in regards to the troll. That was so horrible and it hurts me that someone would say that to people who have already gone through such a hard loss. It also hurts me that members of this board are constantly attacking other members of this board! Telling people to leave the board and being happy when they do is just plain rude! With the exception of trolls of course. It feels like we are all a part of the movie mean girls.

Serenla

poppylove14 said:

Some of these posts are honestly so rude. I wish the feeling of support was extended to all members of the board. I am so sorry to what happened yesterday in regards to the troll. That was so horrible and it hurts me that someone would say that to people who have already gone through such a hard loss. It also hurts me that members of this board are constantly attacking other members of this board! Telling people to leave the board and being happy when they do is just plain rude! With the exception of trolls of course. It feels like we are all a part of the movie mean girls.

Meh, never seen it.

Serenla

eme520 said:

Ohhhh, mean girls GIF off?

Do it!

maelic

squeakyfrog15 said:

@maelic I'm going to go back to your chemical pregnancy post, because even though you weren't saying they aren't losses your post hurt! I had a chemical pregnancy in may. I was two weeks late before I found out I was pregnant. My hcg was 32. A week later I started cramping and bleeding! Hcg was back to none. So NO not every cp happened before women know and not all happen before 3 weeks. A Miscarriage 6 weeks and below is considered a chemical pregnancy! So just so you know statistics are statistics and pregnancy is pregnancy. Every time and person is different! I hate that this thread turned into this. It was a simple question that got taken the wrong way after being answered. I'm not tryin to start stuff or be mean. But sometimes information is wrong and I wante you to know the truth, at least from my experience. Good luck to you in your pregnancy!

I never said all CP happen before a missed period, you misunderstand. I said that the one-in-four statistic is grossly inflated because of CP that miscarry before the mother even knows she was pregnant in the first place. It is one of the complaints some doctors have about early testing, since it can lead to positives that still result in a regular period. 

The definition of a chemical pregnancy is simply a miscarriage that happens before week 5 or so of gestation, before the pregnancy can be confirmed via an ultrasound. It doesn't make it any less of a miscarriage, nor does it make it any less of a loss for the expectant mother. 

I know the statistics. I was saying that by the time you have missed your period, the one-in-four statistic that was being bandied about earlier in the thread is no longer applicable. 

poppylove14

Lol! Love this. I can't see the second one though. Rainbows and smiles cake sounds so good

KatieGummow

maelic

And can I say that I hate the "you're all mothers now" thing? I'm not a mother. I'm a pregnant woman. Hopefully I will be a mother come April. 

Twirple

poppylove14 said:

Lol! Love this. I can't see the second one though. Rainbows and smiles cake sounds so good

J&NL

Lol! Gifs are my new favorite. 

poppylove14

Bummer it still won't show maybe it's my phone. What quote is it?

Oh my goodness! I love those cakes. Will make one day and post a pic of me eating the whole thing and then we will all just be happy

squeakyfrog15

Sorry @maelic I gotcha no worries!:) I wasn't comfortable enough to join the loss bored a after because I didn't feel many accepted it as a loss, but I appreciate you clarifying:)

Serenla

I want cake with a passion now. A layer cake with strawberries mmmmm.

maelic

No problem, squeakyfrog, I really did not want to minimize your loss at all! I'm very glad wee both have the opportunity to be on this board, here's to April coming sooner rather than later!

ekmebm

maelic said:

And can I say that I hate the "you're all mothers now" thing? I'm not a mother. I'm a pregnant woman. Hopefully I will be a mother come April. 

Got it. You're a pregnant woman. What, pray tell then are you pregnant with then? Anticipation? 

Last time I checked it's a baby I'm growing in my womb, and it's one I love and already worry about and that makes me a mom, (well I already was because I have a 2.5 year old)

Regardless of whether or not you take home a baby in 9 months, you became a mother when that line was positive on that stick. You carried a baby, one you loved, one you worried about and if you're not lucky enough to hold in your arms in April, one you will grieve over.

Meanwhile, while you were busy bunching your panties up into a big wad, you totally missed my point.

maelic

I am pregnant with an embryo, currently, but I do not have a child. 

Respectfully, you are free to call yourself a mother but don't call me one. 

boxerbabylove

Come on ladies. Let It Die. At this point I'm just so sorry I ever started this thread in the first place. I got my answer, 5 pages of irrelevant posts, insults and nastiness has followed. I think we can safely say the dead horse has been beaten, flogged, and no longer resembles a horse.