Weaning - sad

billybumbler

I've gone back to work about three months ago and have been BFing my LO morning and night, as I am unable to pump at work. About a month ago I started supplementing these feeds as A was not gaining weight. For the last week or so I haven't really felt my milk come down when she nurses and she just comfort sucks for a long time, and it hurts my nipples because she's not well latched, because apparently there's little to no milk left.

Yesterday I decided to stop BFing her. I feel like there's almost no milk left, I'm hurting and she doesn't seem to mind the bottle or miss the breast.

I feel like this is the right decision for us but I am SOOO sad. Sad for not making it longer, for not having these special moments with baby anymore and also because we are probably one and done so I most likely won't ever get to nurse a baby again.

For those of you who weaned for one reason or another, I admire you, it is SO hard. For those who still BF or pump, I admire you for sticking it out for so long. For those who FF, I admire you, you're doing what's best for you and your LO. We all are.

winecastle14

Hugs!! I'm going to be so sad when the day comes for me. Even though I feel like I'm ready to be done sometimes (mainly pumping 3 times a day at work). Lol. You're doing what's best for your baby but I understand being sad about it. There are so many other ways to bond though so don't get too upset! 

techg0ddess

If you keep the routine of holding her with the bottle for the morning and night, the bond time continues . The bed time feed is our special time. He drinks the bottle and we talk about our day and then when he's done eating he turns over and snuggles on my chest and goes to sleep . I then put him in his bed after a bit of snuggles:). I never did breast feed him since he would just scream at me if I tried to get him to latch and pumping didn't help my milk come in at all but we created our own bonding time just the same . 

Maebb

@PaulaKNL, hugs to you, and I love the last part of your post where you said that you admire everyone because each method has its own physical and emotional challenges.

I am still BF, pumping, and supplementing for now; I'd like to make it to 1 year, but we'll see.

You obviously love your DD so much, and that is the important thing.

I feel like everyone is different. Just like everyone has a different birth story, breast feeding is a very personal thing, and you just have to do what is best for you and your LO. I personally didn't cry from labor (epidural), but I cried from breast feeding because of the physical pain at the beginning and just the frustration and hard work of it. I wasn't prepared for how difficult it would be, and I know weaning will be difficult too. Hugs!

billybumbler

Thanks guys! I was sure I was gonna wean but after not nursing Sunday night and this morning my boobs were full and aching all day. So I let her nurse just now. Now I'm confused... I was sure my milk was drying up.

zmoss

You are awesome! You did an amazing job and should not feel bad whatsoever!

winecastle14

katiemay8979 said:

PaulaKNL said:

Thanks guys! I was sure I was gonna wean but after not nursing Sunday night and this morning my boobs were full and aching all day. So I let her nurse just now. Now I'm confused... I was sure my milk was drying up.

Maybe your supply is just taking a dip? I feel like I am losing it slightly. In fact, I just pumped and only got about half what I normally do it's really bumming me out. I'm not ready to stop BF

@katiemay8979 dont stress! Ive had several dips along the way and it always comes back. I saw in another post you said she's trying to cut a tooth. She's prob just not eating as much because of that.