I was really active when this board first started and then took a break for some health issues for L -- he was falling behind in gross motor, but with PT he is catching up and doing great. We'll still see neuro, genetics and orthopedics in a month to make sure it isn't anything serious, but I am trying to remain hopeful. Anyway one of the reasons I can't see us having a second child is because my husband is SO UNHELPFUL. He works a lot and has crazy hours, but I also work a lot and even though my job is more flexible it is still really hard to balance it all. I am the one who is rushing home to relieve the nanny, looking in our fridge to see if L has stuff to eat and making it for him, ordering diapers/formula/next size clothes, etc. I am trying to get him to help by making lists of what needs to be done, but he really just isn't home that much because of work. I feel like we had this super egalitarian marriage before L with two busy careers and now I am doing the bulk of the stuff at home. I am still very committed to my career and often log on from home after L is asleep. I can't imagine doing this with two! Anyway, we are OAD for now because I told him that I am OAD and am not bringing up the idea of a second child so if he wants one then he will have to bring it up.
Does anyone else's marriage/partnership suffer from this as well? Is this part of why you are OAD?