Convenient BM/BF???

Nashvillebound

Anyone else have a BM/BF that only comes around when its convenient for them like holidays and birthdays?  I just have to keep remembering that one day the kids will remember who was there everyday and not just on the important days.  Vent over

Hopeforthebest

you mean the typical times allowed for NCP?

Nashvillebound

No, I mean they can see the kids whenever they want and only choose to see them when its convenient for them. 

KTdidit

Hopeforthebest said:

you mean the typical times allowed for NCP?

More than just holidays and birthdays are provided for the NCP. Most of the time its EOWE and one night during the week. Some have 50/50 EOW. Yes, holidays and birthdays are usually specified in CO's "by name" but that's not the only time allowed.

redrae78

Yes.  Before we had full custody of SS we had him every weekend and all holidays because BM didn't want to give up her free time.  The only time she kept him on a weekend or holiday was if she had a family reunion/get together to go to and wanted people to think she was the mother of the year.  

Hopeforthebest

redrae that gif is killing me and I like Green Bay. Ewwww

Hopeforthebest

Hopeforthebest said:

you mean the typical times allowed for NCP?

More than just holidays and birthdays are provided for the NCP. Most of the time its EOWE and one night during the week. Some have 50/50 EOW. Yes, holidays and birthdays are usually specified in CO's "by name" but that's not the only time allowed.

 

I wasn't sure what she meant, we are long distant NCP so yeah we typically only get them holidays/birthdays.

redrae78

Hopeforthebest said:

redrae that gif is killing me and I like Green Bay. Ewwww

LOL Sorry.  I was playing with my siggy.  My SIL is a huge Matthews fan so I sent it to her and copied the wrong one here.  Personally I don't see the appeal.  Love me some GB though.  

Hopeforthebest

ohhh yeah that one is much better. Clay is Fabio of this generation I suppose. NOT my cup of tea either.

coopsbaby

Yep, BF here only sees them for big events that the rest of his family will be around. He can see them whenever he wants, and drives past us on his way to and from work every day. He sees our youngest about once every 4 months, older daughter about every 6 months, and son maybe once a year. Now that older dd is going away to college he'll probably only see her once a year too. 

I just don't get it.

twister22

BD floats in and out, depending on who is in his life and what is going on in his life. He is taking DS this weekend, and it will be his only visit all month.

ambrvan

Our BM only gets supervised visitation now. She used to take most of her time when she had government benefits through SD, but once those went away, she stopped taking her unless she was living with her parents. BM's mom makes her take her time and makes her make the allowed phone calls. But if BM is not living with her mother, all contact stops except for the occasional high phone call to one of us late night.

Sunday924

Yep BM used to only take SS when she had a new boyfriend. Now she never sees him.

Amanda88

BM hasn't seen SS in well over a year. The last year she took visitation was once after Christmas, and once shortly after his birthday. She wants to pretend she is a good mom to her friends, and then abandons him with strangers so she can go out. Thankfully, she is so stuck on the rules not applying to her that she still hasn't picked up a copy of the CO.