Advice anyone?

ansluvjlc

Ok I had my period on July 20th-23th but it was very short and light for me I always have heavy long periods. The only sex we had was the 19th of July (we wasn't around each other alot that month his work schedule was crazy) ok so on cd15 (should have ovulated cd14) I got a light line on Ov test but not dark which I never even get a line even when I ovulate. Anyhow a few hours later I started spotting only when I wiped and occasionally a few drops in my undies this goes on from cd15-20 never heavy just spots I should start my period again in two days (30 day cycle) I took a pt yesterday cd27 negative. I'm not about to even get my hopes up seeing we missed the Ov last month but I am confused as to what's going on normally I spot cd 28-29 and start full period cd 30 and so far nothing.... I hate feeling like a failure each month I wish this was it...

Milagros315

I'm sorry that you're feeling frustrated, but I'm not really sure what you are asking. If you're only on CD28, there is still time for your "normal" spotting to start. If you haven't had sex since before your last period, there is no way you are pregnant. Sometimes people have a weird cycle. It just happens. If you're not charting your BBT, there's no way to really know what's going on.

Also, most people on this board have been TTC for a year (or six months if they're over. 35) and are undergoing fertility treatments. If that's not you, you will probably have more in common with people on the TTGP board. Good luck!

ansluvjlc

I appreciate your help. We have had sex more this cycle. It's just an really really odd cycle for me. Just throwing it out there because it was so odd. As far as ttc we started trying in may 2012 and miscarried at 6 weeks in oct 2012 and are still trying.....I have talked to my husband about treatment options and right now he wants to just keep on trying natural and see what happens its so aggravating in my previous marriage it took 6 months with baby 1 and I literally got pregnant as soon as we tried with baby 2 and now I am remarried and we want a child of our own and I want this so bad and nothing....it's killing me every month is a roller coaster

ansluvjlc

Thanks I am new to the site but a bit of encouragement I think is all I needed first baby or tenth doesn't make it any easier. I believe I am done with this site I feel more discouraged than ever!

Milagros315

Ah I see. Well if he wants to keep trying on your own, have you considered charting your BBT and using OPKs? Other than that, I'm not sure what else you can do.

There are also some women dealing with IF and secondary IF on the TTGP board, so you could still try there if you're not ready for treatment yet.

ErinSays

Gentle suggestions are not attacks. When coming onto a new message board, it's important to get a feel for the place first. And the environment of this message board is to introduce yourself so we know how to advise you.

ansluvjlc

I do understand that and don't get me wrong I am very grateful for my children and I know how hard it was when I kept having disappointment after disappointment with my first pregnancy. It's just hard I love my husband with all my being and I feel like a failure; like I can't give him a child of our own. I want this more than I have ever wanted anything in my life. I was diagnosed with pcos three months after my second child and at the time I was ok I thought I was done but when you meet someone and are finally in the relationship you've always longed for and he would be a excellent father and can't get pregnant it's hard. I am coping better for the longest time I couldn't even look at a pregnant woman without crying. Sorry I snapped earlier I am just aggravated seems like there's people all around me who get pregnant one after another who don't deserve them ( don't even care for babies they have already) when my children are my life and I would be the happiest person ever. Sorry I feel terrible for venting here now but it's was called trouble ttc and well I am apparently having trouble ttc

GermanGirl2007

ansluvjlc said:

I do understand that and don't get me wrong I am very grateful for my children and I know how hard it was when I kept having disappointment after disappointment with my first pregnancy. It's just hard I love my husband with all my being and I feel like a failure; like I can't give him a child of our own. I want this more than I have ever wanted anything in my life. I was diagnosed with pcos three months after my second child and at the time I was ok I thought I was done but when you meet someone and are finally in the relationship you've always longed for and he would be a excellent father and can't get pregnant it's hard. I am coping better for the longest time I couldn't even look at a pregnant woman without crying. Sorry I snapped earlier I am just aggravated seems like there's people all around me who get pregnant one after another who don't deserve them ( don't even care for babies they have already) when my children are my life and I would be the happiest person ever. Sorry I feel terrible for venting here now but it's was called trouble ttc and well I am apparently having trouble ttc

I'm sorry that you are so discouraged. I think that all of us can relate to that feeling. Don't feel bad about venting - you need to do it. Although  I do agree that Secondary IF might be a great board  for you.  No worries that you landed here- if you're new to the forums, this does seem like an intuitive place to go. Has your husband had an SA? I know that PCOS can complicate things, but since you have successfully gotten pregnant before, I wonder if there might be another factor involved. Either way, I'm sorry that you're struggling and I hope you find a good community to connect with over on Secondary IF.