Consumed?

Lena76

Anyone else feel consumed with TTC? I'm constantly thinking about it and have spent hours upon hours googling. I'm 36, and I've had 2 miscarriages this year. One in April and then again in June.

gscoville

I've been at it long enough (a year) that I'm not on google all the time, I found I did that tons the first few months but I quickly exhausted my tolerance for conflicting and just plain bad info which dominates the Internet. I also have come to realize that there's nothing I can do with my online time to make things happen faster, other than temp/chart and make sure that we have sex during our fertile window, not much more I can do and obsessing only drives me nuts. I do spend most of my online TTC time here on TB helping others and occasionally asking for help as needed, but I don't think I would consider myself consumed with TTC. I do just try to live life and enjoy, really.

afgal95

I think I can understand what you are feeling...I, too, am 36 and ttc #1 this month after a miscarriage when I was younger. ..I keep feeling that if I have every possible bit of information out there that I'm better "armed" or prepared for what's to come. ...it's definitely not easy! Try to search out the information in small doses. ...maybe read 1 website a day or buy a book and read for an hour a day. ...I know it's easier said than done but it won't seem so overwhelming good luck!

jb2rn

I was the first time around. I think mostly because of my age, I thought it's now or never.

 

I am also the type of person who gives 100% to everything if I am really interested in it

 

I wish I could be more chill!

laurenw77

Hi, I am 36 and also TTC for #1...I'm sorry for your losses. I am all new to TTC and this is my first post here. I am not charting (yet), but have a good sense of when my ovulation window is from cramps etc. I am 10DPO today and hoping and praying for a BFP in my near future. I'm not too confident b/c I am experiencing normal PMS cramps etc. I keep googling and looking for similar symptoms that I could link to being pregnant, but it's messing with my head, so I am going to try and stay positive and hope for the best. My AF should be here by Friday (Monday at the very latest). It's easy to get consumed in this, at least for me it is. Keep the faith! Wishing you all luck!

rcbuko

I am not like this yet though I have been consumed in the past also following two miscarriages.  It's not an all around bad thing to be consumed since I know for me, it was what got me my sticky pregnancies.  I pushed for testing that wouldn't have been introduced to me until I had three losses and hooked up with an RE who was able to keep me pregnant.  

I am so very sorry for your losses.  No one should have to experience loss. 

Right now, TTC is totally on my brain and we will start officially trying next cycle.  I wanted to give my body one regular cycle after this latest miscarriage.  I'm still drinking coffee which I didn't do when TTC for our first child so that's different.  I am taking various vitamins and baby aspirin to prep my body.  We'll see.

Krisd6

I feel your pain! I am 38 and TTC for the first time. I'm on month 4 and have over done it a little! I am temping, tracking CM, using the ovulation sticks and also digital tests. My husband keeps telling me to relax and let it happen. I keep telling him its all about timing and the science of it -so we will see what happens! I am trying not to stress but it is hard.
A lot of my friends have kids and are not in the spot I am trying for the first time. I found this board so helpful and encouraging! It is comforting to know we are not alone and there are others in the same spot we are who can help answer questions and give support to.

Hang in there and be positive

Geekywife

When I was just starting my TTC journey I was on every website I could find. I would take any little sign as a clue I was pregnant or not. It started to consume me to a point where my husband had to pull me aside twice to tell me to stop stressing. After all that could cause trouble. I came to some peace with it and I don't spend all my time worrying about it as I use to do. I think with time you find how much information you can handle and then you start to feel comfortable about the time you spend consumed in the TTC journey.

ksgsmu

There is a fine line between being informed and getting consumed.  The first 7-8 months I was consumed. It isn't healthy.  That being said you should educate yourself and be proactive with your health and in TTC. I have to take frequent "breaks" from the internet and even the bump boards to get my head on straight again.

hang in there

MarylandWed

Yes. It was actually nice when I had two breaks: one for surgery and one before starting my first Ivf cycle. When it gets to be too much I have had to step away from the Internet. It really helps.

CYBURRCHIC

We tried for 3 years on our own before going to RE. It can be so overwhelming and isolating. That's why it is so great to have a forum like this. Hang in there. The journey is long but hopefully in the end worth it.

Clamorel

I know how you feel. I was totally consumed wen ttc with my second and like you I have been googling everything I can for the last few days since we decided to ttc again. I have to keep it in check this time otherwise life isn't fun! Good luck!