Mini Update

SimpleJane

I had the discussion with XH about him possibly leaving the state for a few months for work. It is all preliminary, as nothing is set in stone yet for the job offer. Likely how it will work out is that he will be OOT Sunday-Thursday every week. He would return home on Thursday nights and pick the kids up Friday nights after school. I would then pick them up from him by 8AM  every other Sunday, and 5PM from his parents every other Sunday (those are the Sundays I work). So he will pretty much see the kids Fri PM to Sun AM every week. Its not a terrible set up. The kids essentially get one less full day with him. I don't know if you all remember but I work on the weekends so it isn't a big deal to me for him to have every Saturday because I work all day anyways. On the rare Saturday I get off from work he is always willing to give me the day. 

He is also willing to pay for the extra child care this means I will need for them, which is good but he is already behind in child support and daycare payments right now so I don't know if he will actually follow through with that. Hopefully the extra work will mean that he will have the money he needs to meet his financial obligations. 

The thing I am most worried about is changing the kids schedule again, just to up and change it again later. He fought me tooth and nail for 50/50 but has never actually taken it. DS has been enrolled in my school district and with work schedules it was in everyones best interest for him to be here on most school nights. We have followed the same schedule for a year and it has taken that long for us all to settle into it. The kids are happy with the schedule and I am starting to come to terms emotionally with giving them to their Dad 3 nights a week. Now it is all going to change again and I dont know for how long. He was talking about how he might want to do this permanently and that if it lasted for more than three months he might get rid of his apartment because he would barely be there. That would mean he would be moving in with his parents (1.5 hours from me) and I have no idea how that would impact the schedule. I hate change, and I have a feeling things are going to be upside down for a while until he figures out what he wants to do with himself and his employment.