Intro & Q from TTCAL

+SouthernMomma+

Hi ladies, Not really sure which board is really the best place for me to be lately... So i'll apologize in advance if this is posted in the wrong spot. Im kind of board jumping, Trying to find the right "fit" for me. I also posted this in TTCAL, and a couple of the ladies suggested posting it here... 

My 6 year old was equally heartbroken when we lost the baby. Now that a couple months have passed, she is literally "nagging" me about when she will have a "baby brother" (apparently she share's my gender preference of a BOY). I have to admit, my hormones and temperament have not been the best lately, so to avoid screaming at her I totally ignore the question and quickly send her on her way. I feel awful because I know she just wants an answer, and I cant give her one. How should I handle this situation?  Every time she ask me it sends me into a downward spiral of emotions.

A little back round about us, Im 24, SAHM (for now)  - DH, 28, USMC -  DD, 6, starting 1st grade soon.-

(History: Stillbirth 2006, MC 2006, MC 2010) Most recent angel baby- BFP 4/29/13  MC 6/4/13   D&C 6/7/13  

Scheduled for a fertility workup this month. Any other questions, Just ask! Hope y'all will have me? :-)  

KC1212

This board is for anyone who currently has a child and wants another, so I think you are in the right place. I'm fairly new here and everyone has been very friendly.

Unfortunately, I don't have advice on your situation because my son is not talking yet and he's not in the questions stage. Hopefully someone else on here with an older child can help you there.

I'm very sorry for your losses and I know that there are other women here at 2IF who can relate to that.

Best of luck to you!

74dragonfly

Lurking from PAIF.
I'm so sorry for your loss. There is a board called parenting after loss. Ladies there might know what to say about your DD. My DD is a little younger, 4.5. She never knew about my two losses. Your pediatrician would be another good source for what to say that is appropriate for a six year old.

freakyfast

I don't have any advice on what to tell your daughter either, but I wanted to say that I am sorry about your losses.  I hope you find a good answer, and you are welcome here.  Everyone here is wonderful. 

Amores0121

Lurking

@+SouthernMomma+

This is my first time posting here...obviously I have seen you on the TTCAL board. I also have a DD who is 6. Since MH and I got married almost a year ago, I deal with almost daily questions about "the baby". She doesn't know about our miscarriage, but I know how you feel. It is very hard to deal with.  She even prays that God will bring her a brother or sister.  I told her we just have to keep praying and eventually our prayer will be heard.  Yesterday she said "maybe He's making the baby right now".  Sometimes it gets really hard and I just tell her "I'll let you know when there's a baby on the way, can we please stop talking about this?"

There is not much we can do at this point.  They are still too young to explain exactly how babies are made, and even if we did they wouldn't understand why some people don't have babies as easily as others.  I know my DD thought that as soon as we were married we would "get a baby" because I told her I was waiting until MH and I got married to have another child.  Feel free to PM me if you want to discuss!