What's the hardest part for you?

korycir · August 2013

@TallaB oh my goodness! Now I want chocolate chip pancakes! O_O

Mandyw75 · August 2013

Definitely being scared of an mc again. Today is the day in the last pregnancy that the baby stopped growing. But I didn't find out for weeks later. I'm also sooooo tired I don't feel like doing anything but eating. I don't remember that with my ds but that was also 10 years ago.

Mrs.Kohalic17 · August 2013

Keeping it a secret & worrying about losing this pregnancy since we had a CP last time.

DaniSara21 · August 2013

Having an 8 month old and morning sickness.

jap618 · August 2013

@eme520 I don't love that you have the anxiety, but that I do too and completely understand. :-S

The hardest part is waiting. With AL brain and just early pg in general waiting is the name of the game. Waiting to have my next beta's drawn, waiting for the results, waiting for the u/s, waiting for the dr.'s appointment, etc. Waiting is hard. And not having many IRL friends/family that understand what we're going through.

jap618 · August 2013

cstory316 said:

Definitely keeping a secret which is nearly impossible. I am a drinker and we are out on the water every weekend. If I am not drinking it will be a dead giveaway!

I hear ya!! Most of our close friends know so we can typically play it off together or divert conversations but last night I opted for water and immediately the girl we were with blurted out ARE YOU PREGNANT!?!? I said no. She isn't someone I want to know my business. Good luck!

Last time around DH & I bought a 12 pack and he drank 2-3 before we went out and we filled them with water and re-capped them and put a small mark on the top of it. That way I could "drink" a beer but it had water in it and I only had 2-3 over the course of the night because I was driving. No one had any idea (until we accidentally mixed them up but it was ok because the people that saw already knew and just laughed with us :-P)

nessabeers · August 2013

Elbug said:
The hardest part for me if planning whether or not I want a hospital water birth with a MW or a home birth OR a birth center birth. I hate the thought of delivering in a hospital again but it really wouldn't be the end of the world. The birth center is 21 minutes away so that's only 5 minutes further than the hospital. A home birth I wouldn't have to leave my home and it would be amazing but my husband isn't totally convinced he would be happy with that..... I feel like I need to make a decision soon since Im afraid the birth center and home birth MW's schedules will fill up since out of hospital births are rather common here. Stupid to obsess now but I'm over the top obsessing.

I am so happy to hear someone else stresses out about this! My husband isn't quite on board with a home birth either but I have been looking into birthing centers and midwives so we'll see what we end up doing!

padma55 · August 2013

The hardest part for me:

1) Being so tired and so hungry SO much of the time.

2) Having virtually zero energy.

3) Not rock climbing and being really active with my 14 yo son like I was.

4) Not lifting weights right now (I tore my meniscus, so it was out anyhow, I'm going to have to resort to water aerobics).

5) Knowing that when my three children and ex-husband find out they are going to absolutely lose their minds. I'm not excited about that at all.

6) Feeling like I'm becoming a fat ass when I know (logically) it is all for a very good reason. I'm having a rough time accepting that just as I was getting very comfortable in my skin, it's going to stretch WAY out again. It's been a decade and I'm terrified.

Husker20 · August 2013

That my breast are so sore!!! And waiting to find out if its twins!! Probably not but I have a strange feeling!! Very high family history and we have a Clomid baby!!!

We are thrilled either way!!

Husker20 · August 2013

Luck Be A Lady · August 2013

Right now, the hardest part is severe morning sickness. It's kicking my ass, and I was desperately hoping that I wouldn't be as sick as I was last time. Ugh.

b-ruth · August 2013

I agree with keeping it a secret!

bingbongsmama · August 2013

Worrying. Just very scared of another miscarriage

Maymac18 · August 2013

bingbongsmama said:
Worrying. Just very scared of another miscarriage

Agreed!:(

kylayton · August 2013

It sounds so silly, but it's been hard to remember I'm pregnant. The other day I was sooo tired and it took me a big to realize why. So different from my first prengnacy where it consumed my every thought! The upside would be that the next 8 months go by quick!

vanvoorhis-101 · August 2013

I agree keeping the secret is the hardest part! I think I may have to tell my parents soon... and maybe my sister. It is just hard because you want people to understand but fear loss (I lost my first).

cheffernan · August 2013

I go between pure excitement and pure anxiety. I want to be blissfully happy but my fear of something happening won't let me! Hopefully I'll feel better after my first doc appointment on the 27.

gennamq · August 2013

The hardest part for me is giving up coffee!!!!! And the intense mood swings...

justright47 · August 2013

Well I expected to start a job 3 weeks ago but it keeps getting delayed, corporate bs. Now that I'm prego and don't know what to expect, FTM, do I even want to start it?? I am a personal trainer and feel it would be fine, but what if I can't hack it with energy, ms etc? Plus we could really use the 2nd income as we just bought a new car:/ also, my symptoms are on and off AND we are still in the midst of a messy custody thing with my stepson, stressed out but really focusing on staying positive. I'm doing a lot of relaxing and believe everything will turn out fine.

Christinekeyser · August 2013

The cramping is very uncomfortable. It comes and goes luckily and seems to go away when I drink more water (sometimes I wonder how I can possibly drink more because I'm driving 100+oz per day). Also the strange pooping is something that is hard to get used to.

rissa516 · August 2013

Definitely anxiety! So scared something will happen FTM paranoia I guess

patunia7321 · August 2013

Hardest part:

Realizing that we may actually be responsible for another life in April

Terrifying possibility that something could go wrong before that

Keeping the secret!!!!

1983sas · August 2013

Hardest part for me is the worrying after our loss in June. I am constantly second guessing myself and peeing on sticks, even though I had hcg tests doubling last week.

Sam2440 · August 2013

Being bloated all of the time! I feel like I am so much farther along then I actually am!

Maymac18 · August 2013

Waiting for time to pass! Ready to reach some milestones!

areyes102410 · August 2013

The hardest part for me is seeing so many people on these boards having losses. My heart goes out to them, but it is starting to freak me out and make me worry the same thing will happen to me. I want to tell people, but I have stopped myself every time because I worry I may eventually MC....

I feel the same way, its that feeling that if feels too good to be true. I feel so bad when I see posts of ladies saying goodbye.

GrinAndBarrett · August 2013

Keeping the secret! Now the symptoms are starting too.

Jmblue · August 2013

Worrying about a MC. This is my first pregnancy and it seems like it'd be too good to be true to not have any probs the first time.

Margotsha · August 2013

Keeping the secret for sure! It's something that DH and I are so excited about but we are still very careful who we tell.

The other hard part is the rift that it has put between my mum and us. But I guess it's been coming for a while..

Leticiasmugala · August 2013

I'm so scared to lose this one after TTC for 1.5 years! And my MC 9 months ago. It's like I can't emotionally invest in this quite yet, just in case. But I don't want to live in fear. DH doesn't understand how hard it has been for me either.

adventureolive · August 2013

Being pregnant so soon after my first. Finances are tough, especially now (a bunch of financial hits lately, we'll be okay but it'll be skinny a couple months) so I've been starting to have second thoughts.

cassiekick · August 2013

I can't pick just one hardest part so here is the marathon that runs through my brain 24/7.....
Why aren't my boobs sore today? They were sore yesterday but not anymore. Is that normal? Am i still pregnant? I'm hungry. I'm nauseous. I wonder if anyone would notice if I took a 10 minute nap on the toilet. I should set my alarm so 10 min won't turn in to 2 hours. I'm hungry. I'm nauseous. How are we going to pay for all of this?! Clothes and diapers and food and what if insurance doesn't cover huge parts of medical expenses? What if we both need new tires on our car at the same time? What if our heat goes out this winter? I'm hungry. Im not nauseous?! Oh god whats wrong? Why aren't I nauseous?! Am I still pregnant?
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