The LEAST helpful advice ever!!

Amykeir

I'm interested to hear what gems of wisdom other ttc ladies gave had bestowed on them of late... For example, I am sooo sick of being told to just 'relax' - 'it will happen when you're not thinking about it' Sound familiar??

formerwigirl

Soo common for me! I've chosen to be quite vocal about what I am going through because I have found that more women go through this than I thought. But since I've chosen to be vocal I've heard it all. Sometimes I will entertain it other times I just say yeah and walk away.

nyrunningqueen

My mom told me that she and her co-worker think I'm too stressed and that I should stop all the planning. Sorry mom, this is my life, my body is used to this stress. I've been in this doctoral program for five years and I know my stress limits and what to do when I get to that limit. Why do you think I go for regular spa days?! So tired of hearing stuff like that. I sat both of my parents down and told them the things they are allowed to say to me and the things they are not allowed to say to me. My mom hasn't said anything unhelpful or unsympathetic since. 

gsancho

The #8 above made my morning.  Lately my friend who got KU unplanned says it's because I haven't had the peach sangria she drank when she got pregnant.  She says it magically sped up her cycle b/c she was only about 8 days into it when she ovulated...but she also says CD1 is the day your period ends.  How do people not know anything about their bodies and still get pregnant?!?

supermorena

This is a little different, but I'm so sick of people asking if I have kids and then going on to say how lucky I am and to keep it that way because kids just take all of your time and energy and money. I'm  a pretty passive person, but I swear I'm going to slap the next person who says this. And possibly start screaming about how much time, energy, and money IF is sucking out of me. 

FutureMrsW9

supermorena said:

This is a little different, but I'm so sick of people asking if I have kids and then going on to say how lucky I am and to keep it that way because kids just take all of your time and energy and money. I'm  a pretty passive person, but I swear I'm going to slap the next person who says this. And possibly start screaming about how much time, energy, and money IF is sucking out of me. 

THIS TIMES A MILLION!!!!!  I feel like lately people have been telling me about trips to take and do this and that before you have kids because life won't be the same blah blah blah.  I want to smack them, but most of these people have no clue that we're event TTC (mostly work people, and I've kept this quiet at work because of my industry - I don't want to be taken off the path to get a promotion, etc.).  Anyway...then yesterday this guy brought in his new 3-week-old baby.  She was adorable and he was so cute as a dad, but it was a hard pill to swallow because I didn't know he was bringing her in.  uuugh!

lest12

My boss, the one who wants to start planning my maternity leave, also gave me some killer advice -
1) to travel as much as we can now (I wish! I need to save vacation time for that maternity leave. And I don't have the cash to book a trip to Paris, thanks)
2) not to worry, I'm only 31 and I still have plenty of time! "At least I'm not 41." Nice.
3) my personal favorite - to make sure i dont let this take over my marriage, because we were happy together before ttc, and we can't let this break us apart. Uh, who said it was?

She's not married, no kids. Maybe she had a friend with some bad experiences. Trying to be helpful or not, I wish she thought before she spoke!

Amykeir

Gsancho - peach sangria? Really? People like this annoy me so much - just so ignorant!! Someone just like this said to me I should get really drunk and go crazy cause that's how 16 year olds fall pregnant.

NJHopeful

My friend really said maybe you aren't doing it right.... dumb ass!

Allison7

1. You should quit your job. Just stay at home and relax. Your job is so stressful, that if you just eliminate that stress I know this will happen for you (um, okay. It would also eliminate health insurance).

2. Don't raise your arms above your head. Not even for a second. And once you are pregnant don't raise them above your head until you are at least 5 months along. (are you going to buy me a new wardrobe that only consists of button downs so I can avoid raising my arms while dressing?)

3. Come sit down here at work, because everyone in our area is super fertile and gets pregnant right away!! (one, I can't move my cubicle...and two, this is just extremely insensitive)