CIO users

rsheehan10

For you parents who use CIO or any form of sleep training when you say the first night was tough what do you mean exactly? Do you mean the initial cry to go to sleep was hard or the many wake ups per the usual? In the MOTN how long did you wait to go to the crib to soothe ( ie put the paci in or pat your LO back)? How long would you let that go on?

My experience last night was not as bad as I thought it would be. No real crying for bed mostly just a short period of whining or grunting. I finally rolled him onto his side at the last check and he was out. When he gets frustrated he usually wants the help to roll. Am I supposed to assist him in this manner to help him sleep? Also in the MOTN he woke up 3 times with is 3 less than usual! I was thrilled. However once I heard him fussing and it woke me up I went to him, rolled him to a comfy position either back or belly and placed my hand on him for a few minutes and he fell back asleep. This all worked except after his MOTN feed which was later than usual for him at 6 am. I then swaddled him and placed in the RNP where he slept 2 more hours. Did I do the MOTN right? Should I let him figure it out more before rushing in? I was trying to avoid the big cries in the MOTN.

Please no judgment here. I am respectful of all parenting styles and wish for the same in return.

jannv11

Totally depends on which method you are using.  I read Sleepeasy solution and you aren't suppose to touch them at all during check ins.  I am in the same boat b/c DD gets on her stomach and doesn't roll back over.  Do what works for your LO and try a method and stick with it.  Being consistent is the most important.

Bensmom13

I'm doing CIO with my LO.

I think like the other poster said consistency is the most important thing for them. I don't pick him up after I've put him down. We don't use a paci so I don't know about that.

I always give him a couple minutes to try and work it out before going in to him. I don't want to rush in at every peep or small cry because lots of time he'll put himself back. And then I start checks based on ferbers times.

I think you should pick a method, study up on and go for it.

kgs0505

I don't really have a method, but I sit and listen to the fusses for a few minutes before going in.  I never just run in, because 90% of the time, it's just a few cries and fusses then they are back out.  If it goes on for a while, I'll go put back a binky or lay a hand on their belly to calm them, and it usually works fine.  The "I'm starving Mommy, come feed me" or "I'm royally pissed and ain't nobody sleeping until I get what I want" cries are entirely different.  Sometime they work up to that from the few cries/fusses, but rarely.

HML5382

One thing I would add is that when I go in to soothe, I usually try to leave before she is actually asleep, otherwise she's not technically putting herself to sleep and that's a big part of what your trying to train them to do. I'm weening her from the paci too, so for the first few days I would give it to her initially but not replace it if she spit it out. We're about 5 days in now and I don't give her the paci at all anymore.

For MOTN for us I would go in right away to calm her down if it was a real cry and not just quiet fussing (so she didn't wake up DD1!) and then I'd try to head back out before she was totally asleep. If she started crying/whining after I left, I gave her about 5 minutes before going back in again. We've gone from waking every 2 hours to waking for just one feeding (and one night she actually slept straight through the night).