No advice needed but maybe a hug would be nice.

burybuck0489

i do not need advice, i am just feeling a little sad today.

The more and more i think about 2014 and finally getting pregnant, the less excited i am to tell my mother in law. She has always "liked" me, and when i say liked, its more of a "i deal with you because you make my son happy" kind of like, And i do not have any family on my own side of the family..both my parents have passed away, i have an older brother who has a wife and a little girl who live across the country, and my dads family is across the country and they only really bother with us on Christmas...So i feel like when we announce it to his family, it wont be all "oh my gosh congratulations!" it will be more of a "Meh, our own daughter gave us a grandson already so its no biggie" I am by no means expecting screams and jumping up and down, but i just feel kind of sad because they are the only family i really have..

bugandbibs

((hugs)) You are building a new family. You get to be the head of everything and host all the family dinners. Look forward.

gogadgetgo

((Hugs)) to you. I'm sorry you're feeling this way but as bug said, you'll be building your own family and traditions. And you never know, your mil may surprise you.

TeeJ526

Sending hugs your way. Sorry that you're MIL makes you feel that way. Hopefully once you and H are ready, she'll come around and show some genuine love and happiness to the both of you.

MrsRustyGriswold

While I don't recommend getting hopes up because I swear, that always backfires, I do agree that they may surprise you.  My MIL tried to prevent our wedding, but she's come around now and we get along pretty well.  She is an AWESOME grandma.  So, you just never know.

jjtyler

Yeah, it definitely sucks, BUT that's cuz she is jealous.  Don't let her steal this moment from you.

My SIL literally said "well, now we will never be rid of her" when I got PG with my first.  She's a real joy to the world.  8 years later, she is divorced and dating a total loser and I am still married to her brother and TTC #2.  

I actually want to bring a camera crew if/when I get to tell her ;-)

burybuck0489

jjtyler said:

Yeah, it definitely sucks, BUT that's cuz she is jealous.  Don't let her steal this moment from you.

My SIL literally said "well, now we will never be rid of her" when I got PG with my first.  She's a real joy to the world.  8 years later, she is divorced and dating a total loser and I am still married to her brother and TTC #2.  

I actually want to bring a camera crew if/when I get to tell her ;-)

My MIL said that when she found out he proposed to me!!!!!!!! everyone in the room laughed awkwardly. 

Thanks everyone for the kind words and hugs, I am going to give her the benefit of the doubt, but not get my hopes up for her to be thrilled. But you are all very much correct, i will be starting my own family, own traditions, that realization was what i needed. thank you!

greeneyed_bride

MrsRustyGriswold said:

While I don't recommend getting hopes up because I swear, that always backfires, I do agree that they may surprise you.  My MIL tried to prevent our wedding, but she's come around now and we get along pretty well.  She is an AWESOME grandma.  So, you just never know.

Late to the party, but this describes my situation PERFECTLY. And MIL already had one grandson (born to her own daughter) when we announced our pregnancy, so it wasn't her first grandchild. She cried (overjoyed tears) when we told her, and hasn't stopped buying gifts for LO (now a year and a half old) ever since. For her 60th birthday, we gave her some fairly expensive gifts (since it was a big-deal birthday), and the one that she cried over and thanked us for profusely was the framed ultrasound picture. And this was months after we announced our pregnancy AND after she had already seen the picture on Facebook.

She's a wonderful grandma, and we get along much better now.