what to do what to do???

sweetypie6002

I hate being the jealous person when I see pregnant women, I have a soon to be sister-in-law who found out she was pregnant 4 months before my wedding, I was pretty sad.  My husband always tells me not to think about it, which I really hate hearing because obviously I want nothing more that to be a mother. It is just a big slap in my face when my mother in law or my sil, talk about the baby.  Do any of you have this feeling with close pregnant family?  I'm just frustrated with it all which doesn't help me in trying to conceive.  I've been using opks, and temping which I don't understand yet,  I got 3 blinking smileys on my opks the last 3 morning, and I tested this after noon and it was blank. 

 

anssett

I'm feeling the jealousy but trying to view it in happy light. I have two nieces and a nephew on the way. It hurts a lot to see family having babies and getting to be parents, but we'll be there soon enough. I've been waiting because it was the right thing to do. I'll get my turn. We're going to start TTC in the next couple months. Our plan is in action! We're taking steps toward it every week. In the mean time I get to celebrate with my family and enjoy being an AUNT!

sweetypie6002

I have 12 nieces and nephews and another niece on the way, I love them dearly, and its my husband's first niece on his side, he gains 12 just by getting married to me, so he is excited, I just try to be happy for her, but feel crappy for almost not being happy for them

Twinkie0612

ChancieMark said:

sweetypie6002 said:

I hate being the jealous person when I see pregnant women, I have a soon to be sister-in-law who found out she was pregnant 4 months before my wedding, I was pretty sad.  My husband always tells me not to think about it, which I really hate hearing because obviously I want nothing more that to be a mother. It is just a big slap in my face when my mother in law or my sil, talk about the baby.  Do any of you have this feeling with close pregnant family?  I'm just frustrated with it all which doesn't help me in trying to conceive.  I've been using opks, and temping which I don't understand yet,  I got 3 blinking smileys on my opks the last 3 morning, and I tested this after noon and it was blank. 

 

No.

ETA: In fact, I planned and hosted both my sister's baby showers less than two months after my first miscarriage.

I agree with Chancie.

I was excited when my sister got pregnant with my nephew and 100% happy for her.  Was I sad that I wasn't pregnant yet, sure, but why would I be jealous of her?  It's not her fault I was having trouble TTC.  I don't understand why them talking about the baby is a slap in the face.  Is the whole world supposed to stop because you are not pregnant?

I hosted my sister's baby shower the same month we started IF testing. 

JemmaWRX

Wow. It's one thing to feel envious. But you're really being a selfish jerk. Your ILs are excited and want to talk about the new life that is going to bless your collective family. And you call it a slap in the face? Really? That's a really terrible thing to say. You were "sad" when you heard the news? You sound like the kind of person who thinks the world revolves around them, that no one else deserves happiness. You sound like a child.

I wish you luck in TTC but you really need to shelf your ego.

kmoon2011

we have been trying for almost two years and have lost 2 babys this past year. My husbands brother has had 2 kids in that time. yes its safe to say I was very jealous. but what to do? I was very happy for them. I mostly try to leave if its possible, go to the bathroom, turn the tv on. if I can't get up I just hope on pinterest or something. Its not like your not excited I get it you are jealous we all get jealous, being jealous doesn't mean you are selfish for feeling upset.

I also see pictures of my friends who are about to have their babies, one is just a week ahead of my pregnancy so its pretty hard seeing that still, like that should be me to, I would be that big, I would be sitting up the room.. it's supper hard some days but we just got to keep our heads up.

bugandbibs

Look, I've had my fair share of down moments while ttc. I have had 3 losses, and life just kept going on around me including pregnancies and births. Sometimes I had to step back from things, but I celebrated their joys happily. The same way they have for me. You need to step out of your bubble, and get over yourself.

rjeller32

sweetypie6002 said:

I hate being the jealous person when I see pregnant women, I have a soon to be sister-in-law who found out she was pregnant 4 months before my wedding, I was pretty sad.  My husband always tells me not to think about it, which I really hate hearing because obviously I want nothing more that to be a mother. It is just a big slap in my face when my mother in law or my sil, talk about the baby.  Do any of you have this feeling with close pregnant family?  I'm just frustrated with it all which doesn't help me in trying to conceive.  I've been using opks, and temping which I don't understand yet,  I got 3 blinking smileys on my opks the last 3 morning, and I tested this after noon and it was blank. 

 

It's not a slap in the face, like they did it to intentionally hurt you. And they shouldn't have to walk on egg shells when talking about a baby around you, especially if they don't know you have BOTB.

Chill those emotions, your time will come.